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Well breaking up sucks.

When I broke up with my ex, I was down and lonely for a month or so. And it was a splendid summer! Damn I hate her for this

The current situation is much more complicated than a simple breakup. First, she broke up with her boyfriend to be with me. He was a weak man - as in no will, no opinions (don't understand this as something negative, I consider my character, having "too much will" and too dominant a bigger flaw) - and that wasn't what the girl was NEEDING. She needed somebody like me and I needed somebody like her. We communicate like something out of this world and resolve every fight, every misunderstandint (and we had lots).

But problems came. After he broke up with him - she freaked out and went back to him. And never wanted to see me again. And neither did I. But we had too strong bonds, even after TWO MONTHS (she was with her bf for 2 years and 1/2) of dating. So, after a week of she breaking up with me we started to talk and stuff and she again cheated on him. And the main thing was that this wasn't the sexual cheating. Sex was the cherry on top, when we both felt we love eachother. So she broke up with him again. And after two weeks she came to me and said she was ready for a relationship. I was surprised, wanting to give her the time she needed (learning from past mistake). Ok, so we were together again, enjoying life. But things gone bad - again. She left me and got drunk and sent him a message that she loves him and want to be with him. I really respect him cuz he didn't answer and didn't take it serious. I was going to leave her forever, not talk to her again in my life. And she wanted to be with him too... but destiny has a loooong hand and we got again to talking phase, working together phase, sex phase and so on.

But she feels "plain". And doesn't want a relationship. And keeps contact with him, talking daily and hanging out like once in two weeks. I really don't know if this is right and if she continues this will she ever be ready for a new relationship.

Well this is my experience. And I would like an opinion about this last thing concerning "is this right for the future?". I really love her.

[tuddy]

Something is going to snap in the end, either he will get married to her, cause he lets her in, or he finds someone else. Will she cope with that?

She might get married to you or some other guy, can you cope with that? If you really love her, and she finds someone and just stays with them, how will that affect you?

Your future depends on how you feel and her she feels, if she loves you, and decides she wants a relationship (Again), you might spending the rest of your lives together.

On the otherhand if she really did love you, she would want a relationship with you, and would not keep running back to her ex-bf, Of which i see this guy as being someone who just lets her be free.

[Sorrow]

Do I feel sad?!
I think that the "sad" word is to "easy", to explain what I'm feeling right now, about my breakeup. In a word it, it hurts.
My relationship was a good one for a long time and then just wound down, to the point of breakup. I don't know who was "dumper" and who was "dumped", who was guilty or who wasn't, who cryed more, he or I...and it is very hard to believe after some time now, that we are not together anymore.
I still can't explain to myself that the boy, who made me laugh, who made me the princess of his heart, who spend nights and day with me is no longer here, that he went out from my life...I miss the moments that we had together.
In some period of my life, I thought that time cures all pain that the breakup caused in our heart,but now I'm not so sure in that "truth".
Maybe, one day...maybe one day I will be able to forget, to find a person who will make me feel happy or satisfied.

[pimplehater]

I'm still not sure about my response to this question. The guy was one of the sweetest jerks I've ever known . And yes, that oxymoron was written on purpose. I keep telling myself that he used me and was never worth the time i spent with him - which sounds pretty harsh but most of my friends agreed that I should have dumped him a long time ago. And I didn't even dump him - I stayed with him till the end and then my family and I moved!

Ah well, I learnt my lesson - I'm not getting involved with anyone else for the next year - hehe, let's see how long that'll last. I just don't know if its right that I miss him or if I'm just weak and pathetic for not hating the guy.

I don't cry over guys. That's not me. But I do get really depressed. Hopefully this isn't going to last...

[iGuest]

sorrow, sadness.. hurt
Breakups

Replying to Sorrow

I was in a relationship with a guy from 10 months, and it was great WE SHARED OUR SECRETS AND EVERYTHING, AND I MEAN EVERYTHING, I really did think he was the one (sadly still think so). He was my first
Love, and I had never been in a relationship before. Its been 2 days since he ended it and I have not been able to sleep or even stand up on my own 2 feet. I'm 19 and he is 23 now, funny he ended it the day after his birthday.But whats so sad is that, the day before he cried to me and said he loved me with all his heart and told me not to break HIS heart, the next day he ends it and breaks MY heart.

People say time will heal all wounds, but I say thats full of ****. Yes time can heal wounds but only if you had a crush and not REAL LOVE! Yes you might reply to this and say "BUT ITS ONLY BEEN 2 DAYS, GIVE IT TIME"... I know me, and I know my feelings very well, and I love him and even now it hurts, still crying at the moment. The only way I myself can explain this "hurt", is like a drug addiction, it eats your insides away, and one moment you feel you are all fine, the next you break down without even realising it.

This is why I never got into a relationship in the past, just so I can avoid this pain and suffering. I was content being single all my life and led a simple normal life I was very content with. I lie to myself saying "your strong, you can do this" but I only end up crying more and more...

ONE WORD OF ADVICE... NEVER OPEN your HEART TO THAT SOMEONE FULLY UNLESS YOUR FULLY SURE YOU WILL BE WITH THEM..

For those guys and girls suffering the same feeling I am, I WISH YOU ALL THE BEST IN RECOVERNG.. AND God BLESS..





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[mbafactory]

Yes moving on is a better idea than crying foul for days.... I feel personally that it is just a way of life and one should not be too much bothered with breaking up. After all relationships are for mutual understanding and the day it becomes single sided, better leave it and move forward. There are many things which would help you forget the bad memories such as your friends, your hobbies and many other countless things which will help you move over.
So no point crying and remaining in the same state of mind for many days.
Be yourself, leave the one who has left you. Try to bring the relation on a formal node and cheer.



Do you get depressed when you break up with someone else or are broken up with?

I don't usually have a problem with breaking up with people, I may feel bad about the girl for a few days, but they all have friends to help them feel better, and I know they'll get over it..or so I hope lol

There were only two girls that ever broke up with me, and I have to say I was a little too attatched to them. I was down in the tubes for about 1-2 weeks for both; luckily I had friends to cheer me up, help me forget about them, and move on. I truthfully think that breakups are sad and stink, but some people aren't meant for each other.

[Ousk]

Just from my point of view here and not an advice. I would forget about her. I don't like the cheating type cause if she cheated on him he may cheat on you with no remorse.
Also there are a lot of better girls out there no shortage or anything.
I would take into consideration that she was for two years with that guy, and after two years she got bored a little but she still loves him and does not know what to do, but i think she'll get to the conclusion that him is best for her.