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[simply-me]

Well breakin up -the whole thing isnt really nice is it?
nah i didnt think so.. I have good t=friends aswell that help me get over them

[jae-unit]

I feel pretty sad when I break up. I feel as if no one likes me anymore... but thats only temporary. Well still, it's hard to get over it quickly... unless someone else whos hot likes you.

[OCAC]

I had my fair share of break ups and one girl friend even left me for a horse,

don't laugh, she is now happily married and has four children, by a great guy, I sometimes see her, but luckily she lives in my hometown and thats miles away and I only vist maybe once a year. Of course I was heartbroken, when she left me, my first girl friend, and I was 19. but still, I got over it, a year later. but then I went to University and the girl I fell in love with there, was not really interested. I think it is much harder to be permanently rejected, or being kept on, maybe, mhh, yeah, maybe, all the while she is seeing someone else and she pretends to not being able to make up her mind. but I forgive her and when I have seen her since, my heart still pounds, but she is a great person, has a great personality and I honestly still like her.

I had one girlfriend, who after she dumped me, put me in such misery, I lost a third of my body weight. And the next girl I am still in contact with and she even came to my wedding.

Of course it is possible to stay friends with your Exes, it does not work with all, (she is the only one) but it is rewarding. Afterall there was a reason, why we got along well, there was a reason, why we understood each other. So once we realised, we could only bear each other in small doses, we meet for a coffee occasionally and chat on the phone or email. She knows what goes on in my life, I never knew, what went on in her live anyway....

As you can see, I had my fair share of breakups, some more tragic, some took years of suffering, others were over quick. mostly, when I dumped, it was over quick, when I was being dumped, it could take a while.

Anyway, there is nothing that can prepare you for a breakup, why should there be. You are in a relationship and you tend not to want to break up in such a situation.

[Tonny]

Ao)K-General, on Jun 28 2005, 12:39 PM, said:

Never try to really like a girl a lot if you ain't going out.

I loved just one girlfriend. But then she broke up. i promised myself that i ll never had feelings for girls. I like girls, but I DONT LOVE GIRLS.

funny?

[exhale]

of COURSE you feel sad, well if that happened to me, ill cry my eyes out. unless its someone i really dont like because im REALLY sensitive i cry on all the love stories i read alottttt of them are fake too, but im gullable and sensitive just like that. i didn't have a smooth day today but im okay, i blame myself for the actions.

[AmandaB78]

I recently just got dumped for absolutley no reason what so ever. I was depressed for like four days. I had been going out with him for a year and two months and then he just up and left me. He lived with me too, then I had to move all of his stuff out. After a few days of being completly depressed I finally text messaged him with a sad face and he actually wrote back. I was all happy that he was talking to me again. Those few days that I wasn't with him, I was so miserable but actually got out more with my friends and so on. He asked me to dinner the other night and now everything is fine. We are going back out and everything is fine. Well besides its sort of weird now. It seems like he was miserbale at first but now hes just starting to act weird again.

[disguise]

After i broke up with my ex, i was down, i mean really down. We didn't talk for 5 months and i missed him like crazy. But i called him 2 days ago not to make up, just to clarify something and all my feelings for him came back and i told him that i still loved him and he told me he loved me back but...i don't know, there was just a "but". We haven't talked since then though, i'm hoping he calls me...or i'll just die.
Or maybe i should call him? HAHA.

[knowlege pool]

breaking up is definitely a sad feeling. It is a feeling of disowning from someone you were attached to. Someone you have trusted and shown faith on.

When you are breaking up from your friends it hurts the most. Because it is the relation we choose to make, nourish and sustain. We let it grow over a period of time , feed it with feelings and emotions and let it grow into a tree under which we share some precious moments of our life.

breaking up leads to unrooting of our emotions and feeling. And When trees fells the ground shakes. And it shatters the person emotionally and mentally.

and I agree it will take some time and some strong will to reinforce that kind of belief again in someone else.

But the bitter truth is the life goes on. Breakups are hard to leave behind. But if it has happened we need to sit and retrospect why it has happened? Could it be adverted? Do we still have options? Can we again plant the belief which has been uprooted by the strom of conflict? and if still the answer is NO

We need to move ahead.... There is life beyond

[AmandaB78]

I hate break ups. I just got dumped last night after about a year and a half. I don't like breakups just because the longer your with a person the harder it is to get over them.

[knowlege pool]

once you say breakups that means you already has gone through couple of them or more. I suggest before getting in any new relationship just think what went wrong and what could have been possibly avoided. This may save you from another shattering experience