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[boyCradle]

I have never tried cheating in a relationship. I would look at other girls and appreciate their looks but I would not go and have a relationship with another girl when i have a girlfriend. faithfulness is one of the best reason a relationship lasts.

And i would not want my girlfriend to cheat on me as well that is why i will never do it to her. And most of the time, when I am with her, she is actually that one that would tell me to look at other girls and ask me if I find them sexy, or attractive. hehehe I guess it is just one of the tests that she does to check if I am being faithful.

[miss46]

I think the truth is, you should be thinkabout the other girl/boy (not the partner) and also about yourself too.
Even though your partner may not find out.
What if the other girl/boy that you make out with behind ur partner's back, truly loves you?
And moreover, why would you cheat in the first place?
If you honestly believe that you love the other girl/boy then break up with your partner, end of story.

And honestly, loving one person is such a beautiful feeling.
You would never want to hurt the one, and when you love someone. you make a promise to yourself.
By cheating, you are breaking that promise.
and although it seems as guilt does not exist, it is there, deep inside, sometimes you're just too numb.
But it's there

[thejestergl]

Yeah I personally don't quite agree with you because I don't believe in the "What one doesn't know wont hurt them". Sure I suppose that they might stay happy that you are true to them (or so they think) but really you are just hurting them in the end. I mean what if the breakup gets bad and you mention that you were cheating on them the whole time, that could just make it much worse, and they could just break down completely. I feel that you shouldn't cheat on anyone if you are exculisive with them.

Though I know that in some cases people let their boyfriends or girlfriends, or even husband/wife have sex with other people as long as they run it buy their partner first. And to make sure they are carful of course of STDs. Though I don't really find anything wrong with this, I personally would not have sex with another even if permission was granted. But again, that is a personal thing. I don't know many people who see cheating as the way you do. And there is nothing wrong with your view of cheating just a bit contriversial. Anyway, there are my two cents, spend it how you wish

-Jester

[odomike]

First of all, I dont support cheating in any way at all. Why go into a relationship with someone if you have it in mind to cheat on her? I know that girls themselves arent to be trusted but you as the guy, should try to keeo yourself clean in order not to be blamed for the break up (so I think though.)

One thing I have learnt about girls is that once you try to be faithful to 'em, they tend to start thinking that they are the best thing that ever happeed to you and once they start getting that sick idea in their head, you are in for a boot.

God help us men.

[whiskers_w]

Yo, D-

There's cheating and then there is CHEATING. If you are still experimenting and experiencing new people as lovers to try to find out more about human nature in relationships, and want to have fun doing it, take it from an old geezer on this one... tell the ladies up front that since you are not yet married you want to keep things loosely committed. Then you both understand that when you deal with other people (what some may refer to as "cheating") it is part of the process.

If, on the other hand you are representing that you and he/she are in an exclusive relationship, you are messin' up! Keep it real at all times, unless a circumstance comes up that demands loudly that you use extreme caution. Caution calls for discretion. Especially if it is a circumstance you find hard (for the moment, anyway) to avoid. Something like your stepmother or stepsister trapping you into getting it on with her.... or maybe your best friend's girl or husband if you are a woman. In these kinds of circumstances, where other people can be hurt besides you and the one you are CHEATING with (because these situations are real, bona fide cheating) you must be seeking to let it go before the situation gets out of hand. Also in these situations, while confession may be good for the soul, make sure you only confess to a priest or pastor. Never tell the person who would or could be most adversely affected by the situation, unless you are sure you can't stop cheating. Even then, you should make confession your absolute LAST RESORT!

Only confess if you and the other CHEATER are in love, and intend to marry. Otherwise it may be best for all concerned to do as those you mentioned in your original posting did. Keep it concealed and keep it movin'.

[iGuest]

I have been with this guy for 3 years not married just live with him and I have a 14 month old daughter with him but I have been cheating on him with this other guy for about 1 month. The thing is the guy I live with is 37 and my boyfriend or lover is 24 hes only 1 year older then me. Please help me to see what I should do.

-mari

[iGuest]

Replying to DeathLock
I THINK THAT YOU ARE A TOTAL SCANK. HAVE YOU EVER BEEN CHEATED ON? DO YOU KNOW HOW BAD IT HURTS? YOU MUST NOT HAVE ANY MORALS OR VALUES...OR A HEART.

[iGuest]

cheating sounds like a pain
Bad Relationship, Partner Trust & Cheating

If ya need to be with more than one person then don't have an exclusive relationship with someone and tell em ya love em and all that.

It would be honest to just tell someone ya wanna date others and then it's all in the open. No surprises.

Cuz when someone says they love ya and within an hour, day, or week they are having sex with someone else, knowing full well ya gonna hurt if ya know (or they wouldn't hide what they are doing anyway!!)..They risk the relationship with ya and don't care...Then...Ummm..Sorry to tell ya...They do not love ya.

They don't care.

So you on here saying cheating is ok then you are even cheating yourself with lack of truth. Cuz if it would hurt you for the one you are with to be with someone else...Helllo?

But if ya wouldn't be hurt at all...Then you really don't have something with the person ya cheatin on.

Lol...Sounds wired to read that all back. Just read slowly. Ya feel me?

I have had the time of my life. I am always honest and never cheated. I sleep well. If I tell someone I luv em then it's cuz I do and wouldnt risk the luv for nuthin.

I like dating and the guys I date know that. We see each other in places with other people...But its ok.

Dating around is fun and ya get to know lotsa different kind a guys. I have good relationship with my dates because we are honest and truthful with each other.

There will always be cheaters. I don't care about em. I don't cheat. I just have fun dating. When ya don't have to worry then you can have more fun than ever.

Take it easy ya'll.

-reply by jedifriend

[nstay]

cheating hurts everyone nobody likes them,
try putting yrself in the shoes of a person who had been cheated.

especially when you truly love your other half you'll get hurt deeply mentally
even if its not a serious relationship, you will still get hurt.

even if you think that you're being cheated on by your mate,
shouldn't you just talk to him or her and see if there is anyway to start over again of the relationship?
if it couldnt be done then break-up? you are just plain immature.

by the way and you knowing you would be offending 9 out of 10 people here and you still post it.
i can see that most of the people here are pissed of by you(including me).

although i have not gone through it before i can feel that cheating will really hurt people
deeply.

if you wanna hook up with a lady, it'll most likely be the one which you like right?
and you still cheat on her?...

[iGuest]

I think cheating is bad as it obv damages the trust you have in a relationship and with someone you care about...However saying that, I had been with my bf for about a year and a half and then I went to uni and met someone else and we had a bit of a thing and I did cheat on my bf with him, but I regret it imensley, because I wasn't seeing my bf as much as I used to see him I forgot how much he meant to me and the other guy I met was a player and just wanted me for a shag and I didn't realise that, I was considering breaking up with my bf for him, but I told my bf what happened, and he was obv really heart broken, so we went on a break for a week so I could figure out what I wanted, and I slept with this other guy again, and then my bf came down to see me the following weekend and we got back together, even though I still wasn't really sure about everything I was coming home for christmas so I thought we would be able to sort it out so I tried to forget about this other guy and me and my bf tried to move on from what happened, but then when I went back after christmas I slept the other guy again and I knew I couldn't keep pretending with my bf that things were going to work out, so I broke up with him...Then I find out what a dick the other guy was so I was single for a bit and had a couple of flings, and then I started to realise how much I still loved my bf, so after about a month we got back together and had both had some time to come to terms with things and what we wanted and we've been taking it slowly and are still happily back together 6 months on. I know he will never forget what I did to him and I still wish I could take back what happened but we've both dealt with it and we want to make it work. Looking back I should have broken up with my bf before I slept with the other guy and then it would have given us time to figure things out and it wouldn't have led to me sleeping with him while I was still with my bf despite the fact that I was drunk when it happened, it's in the past now and we are building things up again. I just wanted to know what you thought about it...