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[verdant]

honest to god, i have 8 different girlfriends and i only asked out one of them. the trick is confidence. if you cant at least apear to be confident then go read some other advice. but once you've got confidence you need to make sure you're going after the right kind of girl. one that like confidence and perhaps adventure. whats important here is to make sure you understand the girl you're going for. see if she like impulsive and unpredictable guys, or quite and strong guys or whatever.

the reall trick i've found to getting with girls is apearing to be what they are into. now this works pretty well as long as you are observant. if you cant look listen and pick up details about a girl and what she's into then you need to learn that first. cause even if you did by some magicks get with the girl shes going to dump you really quick unless you can listen and learn about her well.

the biggest thing i found about women is that they are people, just like guys. i've never played into the whole women only type thinking. as if there were things that only women think and feel. i swear to god that is not true. women just use that to have some sort of thinking and operating space. once you can understand how she feels on a topic its pretty easy to interact with a girl. heres some things to keep in mind.

1) women have weak bodies - so unless you're a preticularly weak person, you may not be able to see the same solutions women do. i honestly think if we lived in a world that expected women to be forward and athletic like men are we would actualy find our sexes getting along much better. but instead women are taught to focus their efforts on being attractive, inteligent and MANIPULATIVE. since women cant usualy out muscle a man they will try to out think you. so keep on your toes, they'll try to trap you in a corner of logical reasoning in which their ideas are the best and only way to do things. the best way to keep out of this trap is to make it obvious where you stand on issues and how you live your life.

2) women are very emotional - it doesnt even make sense. maybe if you punched yourself in the face like 20 time everyday maybe then you might comprehend, but most likely not (cause i dont even see what that would teach you.) actualy to put it better, women are quite a lot lik children. when you take candy from a baby do you know why they cry? its because you've ruined the childs world. the child thinks that their lives are over and that they will never be happy again. in extreamly spoiled children you cant even give the candy back, at that point they just want to sit and cry. women are very much the same way they like to sit and feel their emotions. like pigs rolling in mud. all you can do sometimes is wait it out. if you try to fix the problem you'll run into this weird thing about how they want you to sympathize with them and not fix their problem. for guys thats like, the dumbest thing ever. we are guys, we DO. we cant just do nothing, i mean the girl is crying, the thought that goes through your head is "what do i do?".

[ladylove]

I think relationships should always start on a good friendship level and if the attraction still stays strong, thinks should pick up naturally from there without any worry.

[iGuest]

I need help asking a girl out at my church.
Asking A Girl Out

I really like a girl at my church and I have some competition... One of my best friends! He even gave me a deadline to ask her out or he will ask her out. I need to know how to ask her out at a lock-in,the deadline, before my friend asks her out. So any tips? The lock-in is this weekend. So, any ?'s Please help.

P.S. March 26,2008 is when I need tips.

-question by Chuck Hall

[Ucrg]

I took the liberty of going through most of the above posts, exhibiting the posters' opinions.

I'll start by saying that I for one am not much (er.... at all) experienced at asking girls out, let alone dating. But that surely does not mean that I don't know the subject in question. My take on it basically revolves around the feelings involved.

I'll give you a very literal example. I'm just about to graduate and get a Bachelors degree. A couple of weeks ago, I ran into this girl that seemed familiar. It turned out that she was an old classmate from school, who I hadn't seen for like six years. Right, so we hung out a little and I found her to be an amazing person. I mean, the time that we sat and chatted together, I felt that I could relate to her; and I reckon it was the same the other way around. I made her laugh and she made me feel exalted. I was wonderful.
My exams were coming up and I knew that I wouldn't be able to see her, as much as I had wanted to. So I asked her if I could taker her out sometime, say, the dawn of July? And she said yes. That was it.

Now if you could stop here for a moment and analyze this. See, I asked her to go out with me. I did not say as a friend or more. Thats exactly the point. I liked her the moment I spoke to her. Not because of her looks, or her social stature, but because of who she is. Because of the things that she said and did. And I asked her out so as to get to know her better. Back in school, when no one had much of what life had to offer, conversations are in very discreet packets that carry little meaning to them. But when you have seen life your way, and another has see it their way, you're bound to have a fusion or conflict of ideas. Thats what makes things interesting.

Summing up, if you like someone, just because of their looks or something of the sort, try to probe further. Get to know the person, and use this to ask them to go out with you. Something like, "I like you and I'd really like to get to know you better. Will you go out with me". Be honest, be yourself. Don't pose. That way, you know you've done nothing wrong, and you'll be comfortable with whatever you say.

And then, when you have made that special bond; value it, care about it, do not let it fall apart.

Let Luck befall those who need it.

[Mermaid711]

Well, being a girl myself I can honestly say that the best way to ask a girl out is to be confident and upfront. Don't be shy or timid, as this gives a bad impression of you.

[iGuest]

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Asking A Girl Out

Replying to Trap FeedBacker

Dude, see gave you a Due date, doesn't that mean she already like you? Ergo It likely doesn't matter what you say. Just be yourself

-reply by KingKong24

[gisellebebegirl]

"I really like you a lot, maybe we should bring this friendship to a new level."

lmfao who says that.. that is so lame.. i really think the best way to pop the question, is just to wait for when your having an awesome time with the girl [making her laugh, teasing her etc]... then wait for that momment of silence [which usually happens, after tons of fun.. until someone says anywho] then just kinda hold the girls hand, or get close to her in some way, look at her into the eyes, and be like i like you.. do you want to be my girlfriend/ haha(:


i always fall for that(:

[brokenblade]

The best way to ask a girl out in my opinion would be to build some rapport. If you are meeting her for the first time, then get to know her a little bit. Build a little small talk. You must also read her a little. Observe her body language. If she has sort of a cold air about her, then she probably isn't interested or it just isn't a good time to ask her out. However, if there seems to be a reasonable warmth and chemistry in the interaction, then say something along the lines of:

I am very glad to meet you. I am interested in spending some more time with you. Would you like to meet me for... at... You might not want to even call it a date. You could say meet for Coffee (too early) or lunch, or dinner.

Of course you do not have to say it like that. You just be yourself, meaning be honest and upfront. Also, this is only my opinion, you can do it any other way. This is pretty much how I do it. Usually, she will say that she has different plans at first.

The real secret is not in what you say, but in how you say it. You have to present yourself to be a confident and warm person. You could say the same things a PUA or James Bond says, but if you are giving the air of a desperate and pathetic person, it may backfire on you.

[iAssistant]

If the girl is your friend or someone you know for a long time, you can invite in a casual manner. Like "are you free on Saturday night?", she knows where it leads, if she said yes, you can say "can we have dinner together?" or "I wish to have dinner with you, what do you think?". I think this is fine.