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[nehemiah]

Hey People,

Are you in love with someone via internet?

Then join your name here? That wil be pretty awesome

I have to praise such persons because they need to be so much patirnce and trusing each others

Come on guys ..

[adriantc]

i'm not going to be very romantic with this... but it is my opinion... it would be one of the most stupid things you could do. Why? Because first of all you don't know who is on the other end of the line (I know a website - it's in romanian else i would give you the link- which fools stupid people into doing crazy stuff thinking for example that on the other end of the line is a beautiful blond = just imagine what someone would do in front of a webcam and you'll realize what is the definition of stupidity)... so boys and girls have a second thought before becoming madly inlove with someone over the internet

[beeseven]

I'd have to agree that "falling in love" over the internet is not the smartest thing to do. I saw a quote once that was something like

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There are no women on the internet. Just men who are men, women who are men, and children who are FBI agents.

Obviously this can't be taken literally, but wherever you go there's a good chance that whoever you're talking to isn't who you think it is.

Also, two of the most important things for communication are inflection and body language, and you just can't get those online. It's much easier to lie to someone, too. You just don't get a lot of the things over the internet that you get talking to someone in person.

[selim]

I'm sure there are women on the net. But don't expect to find your perfect partner on the other side of the screen. It might just end really badly. And all those success stories you read about on things like match.com or whatever. Well it's called advertising. I wonder how many times they can ask someone for a quote like that out of a thousand. Online dating seems like a lottery. A very scary and disturbing one.

[xaetos]

.. I tried this. Well, not really, not on purpose.. it just happened. As already suggested, it did not end well. It still gets to me sometimes, what happened in the end (I won't go into details there - lets just say it wasn't pretty). It actually left me with a bit of a trust issue that, because of this and other "in-person" situations combined, I probably won't get over any time soon.

I wouldn't advise it. Not unless you knew the person before this happened, and you're confident in who they say they are. Also, it would be 10034 times better if it were possible to meet them in person (yes, yes, in a public place..), as then you'll know they've been honest with who they are.

[nehemiah]

Well, I think I have to stress on the word LOVE then dating.

If you love someone TRUST is an important matter. If you think the onther end is the same sex and if you are diverted by the suggestions of your freinds it means that you are a perosn who can not belive your partner.

LOVE needs trust first. Unfortunately in internet love you need to invest much trust.

But I don't think it is really a risky one to be locked with a asme sex person. Beacuse you can ensure them by knowing their friends circle. Am I right?

[thebluekirby]

I have a "boyfriend" who i contact over the internet. I've never met him, he lives in texas. He admited that he liked him and I told him I liked him back. Problem: That was a lie. Every guy I've talked to told me they liked me and I said that I liked them back. And they all asked me to be their girlfriend and I agreed to each and every one of them. Aren't I cruel? You never know if someone online is bf/gf with someone else and you'll never know about it...
And you can't really "love" that person if all you do is chat and pretend to date and get married. Jeez...

[nehemiah]

Well, I agree, there are people who use internet dating as a time pass.

But can I ask you a question? Will any guy sit and write mails pages and pages?

I agree chatting will be done for time pass. But longer mails? How is it possible unless they are in love?

You can now jude everyone just because of your experiance,

Both the cases are there. But I belive internet love has much probability to be broekn up easily unless both of them are with well understanding.

[brandice]

I've talked about it a few times before here, but I had a really bad experience with this sort of thing in the past and now I look at the whole thing with a bit of caution. The thing is, you can talk to someone and care a lot about them and like them a whole lot, but I really don't believe that you can be "in love" without meeting. There are too many variables to fill in. It's too easy to hide flaws, it's too easy to play games. But with that said...

I don't think it's such a bad idea anymore, since I've realized that I can't practice what I preach and I've fallen back into the whole thing in the past few months, spending hours chatting with a new guy (I mean, a different guy, but one I've known online for several years). LOL. The bad situation happened five years ago and hopefully I can use what I learned from all that to not make the same mistakes again. Right now, I'm going very, very slowly and I am not going to fall into any traps. Plus, I am not going to look deeper into things than what they are. As with any sort of dating, if you just look at it as something fun to do instead of the end of the world- it should be okay. I hope.

[exhale]

the hell?

dont do internet dating. i mean on the NET? Okay, maybe whoever does that needs a LIFE. no offence.

1. you dont know the person, even if you SEE them in person... who knows what they'll do?
2. they MAY be faking it.
3. they can rape (women of course..) you OR steal anything of your belongings.
4. they might not be STRAIGHT. (bi, hetro, trans, lesbians...,*happy*..)

yeah sorry for that "improper" english.