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[ribbons&pearls]

i swear that i'm gonna duct tape my mother's mouth is she doesn't start listening to what i say. She always gives me crap for not listening to her, but really its the other way around. I get into trouble from her aLL The time because she never actually listens to EXACTLY what i say. she'll pretend she's listening and only catch a FEW of the details like... if i said i was going to wear a red and pink dress with black butterflies on it she would only catch that i was going to wear a dress. her listening to me saying what i'm gonna wear isn't realli important cuz i have a much better fashion sense then her anyways but when its important stuff she NEVER listens !! am i just being a *BLEEP* and its normal for parents to do this or is she just being rude? do ne of you guyz get that?

[Saint_Michael]

well to put it in perspective parents fear change, don't get me wrong some people are just not ment to be caring adults, but when you think they are not listening to you they are, they just have hard to coping with change when they are in conflict of being an adult and want to be a kid as well. Best you can do is keep talking to her about what you are doing just to keep here updated. Of course being a brat to your parents doesn't help either best thing to do is listen what they have to say and then talk about how you feel about the situation at hand.


And also in the fantasy world turkeys can talk as well.

[iwuvcookies]

My parents sometimes listen to me. But most of the time they're patronizing so i don't say anything. Just keep it all inside. And no i don't have anger problems. lol. The other day i was telling her i needed money to buy the graduation gown. And then the next day she said i didn't say anything to her baout it.

[Becca]

My mum never listens to me..and tells me off for not listening to her... But I must admit... sometimes you do follow in your parents footsteps haha... So you basically end up doing what she does most iritating to you..

If you think about it. We don't listen to our parents more than they don't listen to us... I mean my mum tells me wear a coat all the time and I never listen to her. She tells me not to dye my hair again and I don't listen to her. She tells me not to spend all my money and I never listen... it all adds up

Plus sometimes parents DO get old if they aren't already and forget EVERYTHING and ANYTHING you tell them in a matter of seconds.. and it's not on purpose.. That's basically what my mum is like.. I scream at her all the time for not listening, but then it isn't really her fault, but it is really. duh. confusing myself!

[Rena]

I've never seen a teen that is in a perfect relationship with his/her parents. It's normal.

I used to have long, loud and repetitive fights with my mom. Then I understood it is useless. Just act all "I'm sorry, won't happen again" and you'll have less problems. It's better because what do you win from an argument? Nothing. Just a punishment.

[EJay]

My parents never listened. I called them one day, told them it was emergancy, and they never even left the lobby to answer the phone. The house got flooded when I got home, and alll I got was S--- about how I could have turned off the water main. How the he11 did I know that the water main was at the back of my closet. So then they turned off the electricity to my room, and locked me in it to show I was grounded. I tried to explain, though that got me another week of being grounded :@

[callum]

Might seem hard or a bit silly, but if you start to talk to your parents like an adult (not arguing with them when ever you don't get your way) then most parents respond to that and start listening to you more and even give you more freedom. This isn't to say that you can't disagree with your parents over things - it just means that you should talk to them the same respect as you would any other person and you should try to take their views into consideration as well.

Callum

[leiaah]

callum, on Jan 18 2006, 03:48 PM, said:

Might seem hard or a bit silly, but if you start to talk to your parents like an adult (not arguing with them when ever you don't get your way) then most parents respond to that and start listening to you more and even give you more freedom. This isn't to say that you can't disagree with your parents over things - it just means that you should talk to them the same respect as you would any other person and you should try to take their views into consideration as well.

Callum

That's a very mature answer, Callum. I agree with what you said. It just seems bad when parents nag and fuss about us not listening to them when in reality that is what's happening, maybe not all the time but it's true. That's a good advice even to me.

[ongnoai]

ribbons&pearls, on Nov 30 2005, 01:27 PM, said:

i swear that i'm gonna duct tape my mother's mouth is she doesn't start listening to what i say. She always gives me crap for not listening to her, but really its the other way around. I get into trouble from her aLL The time because she never actually listens to EXACTLY what i say. she'll pretend she's listening and only catch a FEW of the details like... if i said i was going to wear a red and pink dress with black butterflies on it she would only catch that i was going to wear a dress. her listening to me saying what i'm gonna wear isn't realli important cuz i have a much better fashion sense then her anyways but when its important stuff she NEVER listens !! am i just being a *BLEEP* and its normal for parents to do this or is she just being rude? do ne of you guyz get that?

ribbons&pearls, you're a doll and I do mean it. I fathered two daugthers, and I've seen the same as you describe, repeatedly and from the other side of the fence. Never paid much attention when I was supposed to and, know what? the lassies love me and I love'em with all my heart.

Keep doing the good job of being yourself. Any parent worth speaking of will eventually melt down in front of a pig-headed young lady. But, shhhh! No parent worth speaking of will acknowledge it publicly.

Cheers!

[Rena]

hey, I just had a bad experience with my parents.

the thing is that in our school we have 5 periods, each period we have to do 2 exams and that's how it works and has always worked. the thing is that this year we had 3 normal periods and this one was the one that changed. our director went to our classroom and told us we needed to know things about the new school system that there was going to be 1 exam not possible to excent because they wanted to know how do the students are doing in knowledge aspects so that's why it is not possible to excent.

that day (it had to be that day of all the days) my mom decided that it was a good idea to go to the dentist (i have to miss school everytime we go to the dentist because he lives in another city and my mom doesn't trust other dentists) so i missed school and i missed that day. anyway, the announcement was done about a week of anticipation so i didn't even ask or anything (how would i ask? "did there was a sudden change in the school system")

so anyway, the day of the first exam i went to the school without studying and uhh... failed the history exam. obviously i was shocked when i entered the door and i saw that everybody were studying.

now my parents say that it was my fault and they punished me for 3 months without having the opportunity to go out, just because of an exam. you can't imagine how angry they were, yelling and everything. all ended with slapping doors, they just didn't want to listen nor ignore the grade (it's just a grade...)