yea dude same here
im pre decent i guess but what happened is i had a girlfriend and then we decided to take a break . and during that break we would still act like gf and bf , but suddenly she just shut me down about a couple days ago but she still likes me a little and feels bad for telling me to *BLEEP* off and likes a couple other guys .but im not giving up on her cuz she means the world to me. so right now idk what to do should i just stop trying to get back with her or should i ? this is so confusing and painful . oh yeah one more thing shes kinda bad with relationships
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Posted 13 December 2011 - 11:07 AM
There’s this girl that I am attracted to at my workplace. Every time I talk to her or even say hi to her she has a huge smile on her face which tells me she likes me and her body language says the same. Sometimes when she’s walking through the store shopping she’ll be looking at me. I even caught her looking at me from the corner of my eye a couple times while she was shopping. When I turned to look at her she turned away quickly. Like she was shy to have me know she was looking. Even though we’ve only spoken a couple times I can’t stop thinking about her all the time. I know it’s not right, because we haven’t even gone out once, but I can’t help it. I’m trying to occupy myself with other things to keep her off my mind. Especially since I know it’s not a good idea to get romantically involved with someone at your workplace. And even though I’m not dating her, I sometimes get a little jealous when I see her talking to certain guys. (Which I know is horrible to get jealous!) But I know it’s because she’s a nice person and she gets along with people very easily so I can’t let that overthrow me.
If you guys can help me out or give me some advice on the following issues it would be greatly appreciated:
1) How to get a good conversation going with her to keep things interesting when I see her (which is not often by the way).
2) How to get her off my mind all the time. (Which I know is unhealthy and insane).
3) How to deal with the useless jealousy of seeing her talk to certain guys.
If you guys can help me out or give me some advice on the following issues it would be greatly appreciated:
1) How to get a good conversation going with her to keep things interesting when I see her (which is not often by the way).
2) How to get her off my mind all the time. (Which I know is unhealthy and insane).
3) How to deal with the useless jealousy of seeing her talk to certain guys.
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Posted 06 January 2012 - 06:56 PM
My reply is to Orion34!
Sup? This is a girl replying to you! (How the heck did I find this forum??)
Men are visual creatures, this we all know. You can't base a woman's feelings for you just by her smile or body language. When you do that you choose to believe what you see instead of going by something she says to you. However, girls are tricky! We guard our feelings very well when we're crushing on somebody because mostly we feel vulnerable and don't want to appear weak or desperate. We're very, VERY conscious of how we appear and act around men, even around the ones we aren't interested in. I admire girls who can be so brave and just strike up a conversation with a guy they like.
Anyways, you said it yourself: She talks to other guys because she is a nice girl. How does she treat you compared to these guys? If it's similar then that tells you she's just being nice, especially because you guys work together she HAS to be nice to you! If she treats you extra special it might mean she thinks you're cute or sweet.
You catch her looking at you... when you're not looking? And when she's shopping? I have to admit that when I used to work retail and would come into the store when I wasn't working I would try to catch the eye of one of my fellow employees and wave if they saw me. Are you pretending you don't notice her when she's in the store? Because she could be trying to catch your attention to say hi because you're on friendly terms. It would be rude if she didn't! If you saw her looking at you I'd bet she would smile and wave and be on her merry shopping way. If you don't then she gives up and continues on her merry way anyway.
Body language and smiles can only get you so far. If you think you really like her then please, stop waiting for signs from HER and suck it up and be a man and talk to her since you have confirmed your feelings for her. Nothing is more irritating to girls than a guy who won't get off his butt and just talk to her, believe me! It's a huge turn off when a man won't be a man and acts like a coward when she is around. If she doesn't feel the same way then it'll be like a bandaid: it'll hurt at first but it'll be quick and you'll stop spending your nights thinking up ways of asking her out and the scenarios of you two together. Don't prolong this if it's on your mind so actively.
I wish you luck, buddy! Work relationships are like walking on eggshells, so think of what you could be risking... just don't think TOO hard
Sup? This is a girl replying to you! (How the heck did I find this forum??)
Men are visual creatures, this we all know. You can't base a woman's feelings for you just by her smile or body language. When you do that you choose to believe what you see instead of going by something she says to you. However, girls are tricky! We guard our feelings very well when we're crushing on somebody because mostly we feel vulnerable and don't want to appear weak or desperate. We're very, VERY conscious of how we appear and act around men, even around the ones we aren't interested in. I admire girls who can be so brave and just strike up a conversation with a guy they like.
Anyways, you said it yourself: She talks to other guys because she is a nice girl. How does she treat you compared to these guys? If it's similar then that tells you she's just being nice, especially because you guys work together she HAS to be nice to you! If she treats you extra special it might mean she thinks you're cute or sweet.
You catch her looking at you... when you're not looking? And when she's shopping? I have to admit that when I used to work retail and would come into the store when I wasn't working I would try to catch the eye of one of my fellow employees and wave if they saw me. Are you pretending you don't notice her when she's in the store? Because she could be trying to catch your attention to say hi because you're on friendly terms. It would be rude if she didn't! If you saw her looking at you I'd bet she would smile and wave and be on her merry shopping way. If you don't then she gives up and continues on her merry way anyway.
Body language and smiles can only get you so far. If you think you really like her then please, stop waiting for signs from HER and suck it up and be a man and talk to her since you have confirmed your feelings for her. Nothing is more irritating to girls than a guy who won't get off his butt and just talk to her, believe me! It's a huge turn off when a man won't be a man and acts like a coward when she is around. If she doesn't feel the same way then it'll be like a bandaid: it'll hurt at first but it'll be quick and you'll stop spending your nights thinking up ways of asking her out and the scenarios of you two together. Don't prolong this if it's on your mind so actively.
I wish you luck, buddy! Work relationships are like walking on eggshells, so think of what you could be risking... just don't think TOO hard
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