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[brandice]

I have felt that way at times, but then I wonder if I really want him back or just that comfortable feeling of being in a relationship, you know?

[iGuest]

I think I made one of the biggest mistakes of my life. I had a man that loved me unconditionally and I feel like I convinced myself he was wrong for me and I let him go. I don't know what it was, maybe I was too young to realise how perfect he was for me. It seemed like the universe was on our side. Some of the coincidences.. His aunt is my mothers best friend, our grandmothers are buried in the same cemetary two rows apart, we were born in the same hospital the same year, eight days apart... The list goes on.
I let him go and for some reason, I know he was my soulmate. Even if you don't believe in soulmates then I can refer to him as the one that got away. But he was even better then that.

Since then I have moved on. I found a great guy but no mater what this ex of mine pops into my mind from time to time. Actually it's a little more than time to time. I feel like I had it all, everything I needed if only I wasn't so stubborn and now I've lost him forever to someone who isn't his soulmate. We both admited that we are soulmates gone wrong, we had a lot of growning up to do. But now I don't know what to do...?

I'm stuck between a rock and a hard place. What should I do? How do I get over a person I feel so connected to? How to I love unconditionally again?

Please comment, no rude comments, I'm beat down as it is and looking for honest advice.
Thanks

Is this wrong?

-Champion of Disaster!

[thejestergl]

I have not broken up with anyone and regretted it later (then again I haven't been in many relationships haha). I feel that if you break up with someone it is probably for a reason, and a good one hopefully. The trick for me is to actually think about it and at least try to work things out rather than making a sudden decision. If you actually try to get the relationship to work and then still feel as though you should break up then it wont really be haunting you later on. I have looked back on a couple relationships, some I was glad and asked myself why I was in it in the first place, but others I think of other ways I could have tried to help the hardships. But to answer you question directly, no I don't regret any break ups or think that it was a mistake.

[Tunay]

seanooi, on Jan 15 2006, 02:55 AM, said:

I have a burning question, Has anyone dumped someone only to realize that it was a mistake. I ended a relationship about six months ago, and after three months, I started to miss my ex-girlfriend. At first i felt like she was the one who wanted to break up, so trying to protect myself, i did the dumping. It wasn't so hard, cause i felt I came out unscathed...but after a few months, I realized that i was wrong. I was not going through that guilt period that many went through in a break up, I really I did some bad stuff pushing my ex-girlfriend away. We haven't talked much, but I received an email today saying that I am loved, however, things are over. But I dont want it to be over.

Has anything like this happened to anyone...whats your story. I am not depressed, nor desperate...I have moved on. I accept my loses, but just curious to hear other stories.

Well i have a story but it really isn't about dumping someone but letting someone go out with someone else cause he couldn't choose between me and 3 other girls i really liked this boy too and i was excited when he said that he was going to pick me but then i told him to give other girls a chance and that if he broke up with that girl that he would go out with me next. lol well there was never a next time for me because he kept going straight from girl to girl and never seemed to make it in my direction! but really i'm glad that he didn't because i later realized that i fell in love with my best friend (my current bf) and now we are engaged . i do although think about how life would have been life if i decided to choose that guy from way back when. but the past is the past and now i'm happy so there is nothing to be disappointed about now. even though i think that guy lost the best future wife ever! <3 oh well

[iGuest]

Champion of Disasters
Have You Ever Break Up With Someone

Replying to Trap FeedBacker
Is there a way to get back with that person. I been with my fiance for 6 years. And I think I'm going to break up with him, because I feel like I'm not happy. He is just like your guy. I'm just feel like I have to break up with him, and I don't know why. I get these moods and I have to do it. I have to make sure that I love him. It hurts me like crazy. I just have to do it or I will never know. I know I risk the chance of loosing him, but I can't do this to him every 2 years. It's not fair for him. He deserves to be happy. Even if it's not with me. He hasn't done anything, he says he loves me, and It's up to me what I want to do. But I get conflicting thoughts. I'm so tired of thinking. If you really regret not having your ex see if you can do something about it.


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[iGuest]

Replying to Trap FeedBacker

Well, I lost the first girl Ive ever loved about 8 months ago, and I still love her as much as I did on the day that it started. I wont date any other girls, I don't want to have sex with them, I don't even enjoy looking at them. All I can see is her. We don't talk, and when I tried to get her back she said I'm just not the one for her. I don't see my situation changing, so you just have to deal with it like an amputee deals with a lost arm, you deal with your lost heart. I was meant to meet and fall in love with her, and I'm not even sure if she still loves me at all. She sure as hell never tries to contact me so I can assume she doesnt care. She cried every time I tried to get her back, which made me feel like a real jerk. So, I just leave her alone and love her without knowing her anymore. And I deal with it from the time that I wake up to the time I sleep. That is what you do I guess. It will be okay on some odd level, everything always is.

[iGuest]

Haix I suffer the same fate.I did the same thing as you or maybe worst...My ex girlfriend treated me with the best care a girlfriend could ever give,but I took it for granted.I really do regreted what I've don by breaking up,really do hate myself for that.Well well,life goes on,just hope that others could advoid all these mistakes.

[iGuest]

Who HASN'T!? I mean, the only time you wouldn't is if you ended a horrible, horrible relationship. And even there you still get hurt. My advice? Tell her you made a mistake. Tell her your true feelings. Do be warned they may not be returned (I know THAT feeling) but try as hard as you can to stay friends.-reply by Abby