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[Global]

Is there nyway you can get soemone to love you just by being yourself?....

many people change to find love and find it but become unhappy and depressed!

i know this is a hard question and not far off "what is the meaning of life?" but im sure u can help me

[pixieloo]

You can't "get" someone to love you. They either love you, or they don't. And they should love you for who you are, not who they want you to be, or who you're pretending to be. Love isn't about what someone can give you, it's about what you can give someone else.

[Mjay06]

I'm old, wisened (& a bit grizzly ) & ive always found just being yourself works.

If you try & be something you are not you find yourself constantly under pressure & acting, & you dont enjoy it.

Just being yourself may suprise you, ive pulled amazing looking girls who I honestly didnt think I stood a chance with just by acting normal. If they like you great, if not its their loss - thats how I look at it.

[Gyad]

You're being really selfish by trying to get people to love you. If that's the way you see love, then it's wrong. Loving someone isn't about benefiting off of them, it's about what you're willing to do for them. Be yourself, act the way you feel is comfortable, and hope that someone will love for who you are. Most of the time, if you put up a show to make someone love you, you're just adding to the fact that you're not good enough to be worthy of being loved by someone. If you really want someone to love you, then you shouldn't have to get them to. They will love you for who you are. I have no idea how old you are, but from the way I see you, you're still too young to be in love. [Yes, I'm a hypocrite ]

[brandice]

Mjay06, on Jul 10 2006, 01:16 PM, said:

Just being yourself may suprise you, ive pulled amazing looking girls who I honestly didnt think I stood a chance with just by acting normal. If they like you great, if not its their loss - thats how I look at it.

This is part being yourself, part having confidence in who you are (which all girls love!) and part seeming not to care either way.

My mom once gave my sisters and I some advice when we were younger, "The quickest way to get a guy to be crazy about you is to not be crazy about him." The number one way to get someone to be more interested in you is to seem as though you aren't trying so hard for someone to be interested in you. I don't mean that you need to ignore someone and brush them off. I just mean you need to be yourself and friendly but you have to go in with the "whatever happens, happens" attitude.

Edited by brandice, 10 July 2006 - 08:29 PM.

[stephanie]

I honestly think that if you want to be loved,really loved,you can't do anything beside being yourself. But,i know and to girls is easier to do it,that you can transform yourself into something that you know the other person likes to get attencion and cause interest. but that is not going to be real love because it's not the real you also.

[husker]

I agree with what everyone has said above about being yourself. All you can do is try, and if you fail, you just have to move one. Somebody will like you for who you are. Looking at the other person's standpoint, you don't want someone to act different for you to like them, would you?

[tuddy]

What type of 'Love' you referring to?, and in what context?

1. Brother & Sister Type
2. Mother & Daughter Type
3. Boyfriend & Girlfriend
4. You & President?

People tend to use the word 'love' just out of context when talking to friends, like 'I'll talk to you later, love ya' i do all the time. However, if a guy seriously invites you to a romantic dinner, buys you a gift, rambles on then has a tear in his eye when he says he loves you, then you can kind of think he means it.

On the other hand, some fe/males may 'believe' what there partner says on the fact that they think they are not good enough to get anyone, take it or lose it.

What i believe you to be referring to, is there things that are 'generalisation' in love that you can do to help make someone live you, and there is simply not. I'd fallen in love with 3 females, and all 3 were different, its the way you view someone, if they dont view you the same way, tough cookies!

They say 5% Relationships are 'True' Love, and 20% are 'semi love' and the rest is built on fear, or lust. People that are willing to get themselves in to that 5% are those that will be happily married for the long run!....

[Lyon2]

There's no way to make a girl to love us if she doesn't want to, or worst, if she is in love for someone else!

Anyway, if you really want to make a girl fall in love for you, first you need to be good looking, or at least, you got to be resentable all the time, not just outside your house, allways and all the time, girls see this kind of details.

Then, you must give her presents, not everyday, one per week, perhaps saturday night, a flower taken out of the garden (not a flower that you get in stores, girls love natural things, you will break her heart if you give that), then you take her to a restaurant, a nice one, not too expensive because you need to show her the reality (forget about this if you are rich! he he he).

Don't have time for more tips, have to work.

Check out the rest of my reply later nigh.

[Kaila]

You can't "make" someone love you. There's no magical potion or ritual to make it happen.

Have confidence in yourself. Be yourself. Don't try to change who you are for someone else. That's pointless. Then neither of you would ever be happy, because you can't be yourself around him and you have to totally change who you are to make him happy, and he wouldn't be happy because he'd be able to tell you were faking.

Confidence, be yourself, and hope and pray for the best is the key =)