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[Shortyfly17]

THis might not fit in topic but here goes.....

My cousin cuts when ever she is upset, but I do not think she has a reason to cut. She has a nice house a family that loves her. She has everything in the world. The only bad thing about her life is that she is a emo.(She doesn't have many friends ) I go over her house alot and try to stop her.
She just ignores me or tries to change the subject. She kind of scares me becasue she likes to save her blood in a bottle. I think that she is a good person but she needs some help. Joelle(My cousin) She says that she wouldn't go as far as goth but I think that she is going much farther then goth. The truth is that her supposedly called friend Matt asked her to be emo. Matt is 13 years old she is 12. Matt went way to far at one time. I am sorry if I am telling her life story but only talking to people can help me to help her now.
It was the day of the fair on one of the rides. He was being a pervert to her. I will not spill the details
Brittany is my other cousin that cuts!! Why do people cut! When there is no reason I wish that there was no cuting.(Or at least when there was no reason for it) I hang out with Brittany alot she wears short sleaves. You would be able to see cuts and scars all up her arms. One of her best friends started to gross her out and started calling her things and said that she had no friends. She took her so called sucide box into the bathroom. She was trying to cut her self. We tried to stop her she told us all to leave. We left. One of her best friends came to the door and ask her if she cut she said yes. She said she was cutting. Can someone please tell me why people have to choose this way to calm themselves down? I mean it is so violent and wrong. Cut a three lettered word. And so much damage it has conflicted on my cousins. Can someone please help.

[TypoMage]

Wow your are in it deep! I do not think that I can help you with that Well I will try.
Maybe you shouldtry talking to them or you could scream at them untill they listen.(2nd option never works)
So maybe you could ad me and we could talk about it.

[brandice]

Even if it's just some emo phase/ritual, it's something that is going to affact these kids for the rest of their lives. This is a pretty serious problem and I don't think you should have to try to figure it out on your own. You really need to talk to your cousin's parents or guardians. Talk to your own parents, first, probably, and work out how you should approach this. You definatly need to get grown-ups involved in this.

Perhaps the adults in your life might not know about cutting. You might want to get some information together on the subject to show them how serious it is. Visit some websites with them or print out some articles on it. These girls might need to go into therapy.

[Shortyfly17]

brandice, on Aug 1 2006, 08:51 AM, said:

Even if it's just some emo phase/ritual, it's something that is going to affact these kids for the rest of their lives. This is a pretty serious problem and I don't think you should have to try to figure it out on your own. You really need to talk to your cousin's parents or guardians. Talk to your own parents, first, probably, and work out how you should approach this. You definatly need to get grown-ups involved in this.

Perhaps the adults in your life might not know about cutting. You might want to get some information together on the subject to show them how serious it is. Visit some websites with them or print out some articles on it. These girls might need to go into therapy.

thank you for the advice thank you a lot thank you for the great advice

[Mermaid711]

The thing about cutting is that it releases endorphines to the brain, which make you in somewhat a better mood.

[Watermonkey]

What the hell is "emo"? When someone is a danger to themselves or to society, there is usually somewhere you can take them like a mental hospital or psychologist to get them the help in counseling they need. But, sadly (sometimes), there really is no way to help someone who doesn't first recognize their is a problem, and second, they need to actually want help to solve the problem. Mermaid brings up the point that pain releases chemicals from the brain that gives the feeling of euphoria and that feeling is addictive. It's possible that there's an addiction there that could lead to other more destructive tendencies and ultimately could lead to real injury or death. If you can't bring them to see that what they're doing is a problem, I'd get as far away from them as possible, unless you have a morbid fascination with seeing people kill themselves. In that case, bring a camera with you every time you visit because one of those times, you'll be visiting a dead body and you'll definitely want to take some pictures to share with all your morbid friends.

You might also suggest to them that sometimes playing hard like bicycling or running, swimming, whatever releases the same endorphines without the scarring... That's an addiction that might actually be a good thing!

[Smack]

Your cousin needs rehab.

Seriously, its just cuts now but I've seen it before and the end result is usually not just scars.

Yes and Mermaid is right, basically it makes you high. So it is an addiction problem.

If her parents don't do anything, at least go talk to the counselor at her school, it's free and usually the counselor can help.

[tuddy]

Watermonkey, on Apr 30 2007, 10:57 AM, said:

I'd get as far away from them as possible, unless you have a morbid fascination with seeing people kill themselves. In that case, bring a camera with you every time you visit because one of those times, you'll be visiting a dead body and you'll definitely want to take some pictures to share with all your morbid friends.

Was that really called for? I think you over stepped the mark there. She was asking for help for family members, and I don't think that made any help to the sitiuation. Unless there is something helpful to say, don't say anything at all. Your remarks there were ingoranat and over the top considering she said in her first post she doesn't like them doing this.

[wenster]

I don't know. I want to say she does it to crave attention. That's the only reason why I would think she would cut. Some people aren't born the same. They may be more hormonal or whatever. I would also suggest a school counselor or talking to her parents about it. I can semi understand the high from cutting yourself to feel alive or whatever. Because i've sort of tried to cut myself once. lol. i'm retarded. I've moved on.

[tara]

this a very critical situation because at this age children needs guide and if they are feeling anything wrong then please console her if it is not stopped then in future it may increase her cutting activities.