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My Life Is Getting RuinedStaring Problem

I'm so glad I found this site. This is my problem, and I need help and I don't know who to turn to.. And it's getting to the point of insanity.  I feel so bad everytime I do it. My problem with staring is at men's bald spot and even at women's hairline. I don't know how I got into it. I'm female, and I had problems with my hair. I was always looking at myself in the mirror at my hair. Then I started to stare at people's hair line on t.V. I have  a big screen.  I always stare at myself, but I don't offend my self. Then I started staring at my family members, and I felt so bad. Every time I talked to my brother, I'd look at his hair. It's mostly because I feel bad because I don't want him to go bald, but I just end up staring at his hair and then I did it to my dad.  I hate myself. And now I'm doing it to any stranger. I am a really good person at heart, and the last thing I wanted to do is hurt anyone's feelings. And when I did this to a man who was the nicest person, he noticed that I noticed, and then I noticed that I noticed and it's making me act bad toward him, because I hate myself that I looked at him. I don't know what to do. IT makes him end up hating me. Then I wish I could go to him and explain to him that I'm a moron and I am so sorry and I wish I didn't do it. I don't wear glasses, but I feel like have have to now, because it's gotten to the point where I am afraid of who I'll look at next and offend. I can only be comfortable wearing sunglasses. Then if I am stuck with no sunglasses and no glasses, then I have to blur my vision to stop from staring at people. I hate myself because of this.  I feel like life is not worth living, because I never want to hurt anyone. I am hurting the confidence of men and women. I don't care if people stare at me. My hair isn't perfect. It started with myself, and I am projecting this awful behaviour on others. I don't know what to do to stop this. I can't tell anyone about this because it is so embarrasing.  I can't even talk to anyone now. I hate going to the store because I'm afraid I'll just stare at a random stranger and hurt his or her feelings.  I was searching the internet to find help and I came across this site.  Please someone, please help me. This is no joke. People hate me because of this and they don't know the true kindness in me.  I wish I could stop this. I feel like having a press conference and telling eveyone that I hurt that I'm sorry. Please help.

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[Zagubadu·]

Yea I find it hard to look people in the eyes that are above you. Like teachers, the principal, probation officer . I found something that works really well. Don't look them in the eyes look at the right above the noes between the eyes. It looks like your giving eye contact but it doesn't feel as awkward. At least for me.

[dougfisher]

Ok I have a serious starring problem, basically I stare at people I try not to as now It has gotten me into trouble as far as people thinking your a stalker. I starred at a cashier girl once and I felt horrible about it so I tried to go through her till more often hoping I would get a chance to apolagize but as time went on I totally pussed out and I think they thought I was a stalker. So basically I just stopped shopping there all together for like 4 years. So I got a job at a new place and it turns out the girls mom works at the fricken store and I think it has gotten out that im a weirdo stalker totally *BLEEP*ed. I try my hardest not to stare at people these days but I feel Im getting a bad reputation now based on my starring. Oh also I do try not to stare at people too much I find myself even starring down people probably looks like im checking them out including old peoples asses. Anyways thought id throw my story out hoping that someone can atleast help me feel better about my situation feels like a Ben Stiller movie I am not kidding you. Should I just come clean about it because I feel like I got slandered for being a stalker at work and im totally not I have a gf and everything she doesnt know about this and I dont think she knows about my problem. My starring problem runs deep if someone has a zit on there head or has a missing eye I will look at that spot. oh man this *BLEEP* runs soo deep I think im just gonna have to straight up tell people I have a starring problem. Ya I even check out guys asses im not gay, this has gotten so out of hand atleast now im trying to control it before I would just let it go. This is total OCD I also do have an anxiety problem. Maybe I can do see a doctor about this???? oh Also the other day at my girlfriend moms my eyes were jumpy *BLEEP*kkkkkkkkkkkkkkkk I hope she doesnt think I was checking her out or someshit AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH

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Edited by dougfisher, 05 May 2011 - 08:51 AM.

[eInfiniti]

When you talk to someone, it is normal that you sometimes look at him/her other than into his/her eyes. It is not so normal that you pay attention to potential problems of the person. It is not normal if you stare at the problem that you have just discovered. It is silly or disrespectful if you respond to the problem. That is what I think.