18 replies to this topic

[r0b-dog]

Just a discuss of what age differences you think should be between you and friends, should there be

example:
you are 17 and you have certain friends, what age differences should there be.

1 year older difference
2 year older difference
3 year older difference
4 year older difference
5 year older difference

OR

1 year younger difference
2 year younger difference
3 year younger difference
4 year younger difference
5 year younger difference

[EngrJayze]

mostly my buddies are my classmates at school so there is no major age differences.. some are more or less 2 years ahead of me.. but age difference doesn't matter - so long as your are friends

[t3jem]

Now, for friends, I don't think there is an age limit, I have friends that are 50 years old, I also have friends that are 8 years old or less. I'm 18 and there's really no problem with it, it's really a matter of how to get along with different aged people. Dating on the other hand, is a different story. Especially when your younger you shouldn't date more than 2, maybe 3, years apart from you, and that's still pushing; however, when you get older, the age difference can get bigger like up to 10-12 years, that's pushing it. This is just my personal opinion though, your culture may be different from mine over here.

[KansukeKojima]

Man... most of my friends are my age... but I could really care less what age they are... A friend is well, my friend. I feel that this can be the case regardless of age. Also, I'm talking about true friendship, not a shallow school relationship that most would consider friends. I mean a genuine care and affection for one another.

[sonesay]

It makes no sense why would you limit your circle of friends with a thing such as age difference. Though personally I don't tend to have any friends younger then me because most of the time people younger then me are more immature and I don't bother with that crap. Same with some older people if they are stupid then I wont mess with them. I based my circle of friends around people I like not how old they are. When your younger though I think its common just to hang around people your age and its normal. Generally when you get older you tend to meet more people from different age groups so age doesn't really become an issue just other criteria like maturity and other qualities you prefer in people.

[husker]

As long as you trust your friends, age shouldn't matter. You don't want some 40 year old guy that is out there to abuse you. If you like your friend, then don't worry about age. Like they say about love, "it's who you are on the inside not the outside" or something like that. Age should have very little affect on a friendship.

[bishoujo]

Age shouldn't be a limit in any kind of relationships. It is the feelings that matter. However, I believe that people of a similar age probably have more in common. For e.g. you probably couldn't bring your 40 year old friend to go shopping with you if you are a teen. You'd have different opinions on clothes and styles. That's why parents and children have generation gap.

[arnz]

Have to agree that Age should not be a limit in friendships, considering many school leavers do eventually work with older people in university, and also in the workplace eventually. Friendships do form out of people's common interests in the workplace and/or uni, and people grow closer together similar to a 2nd family.

But yes, friends in a similar age range are more likely to have common interests. a 40 year old doing skateboarding with a bunch of teenagers will look kinda weird tbh, unless if he was a professional or well known in the sport.

[elusiveliberty]

I don't think that age matters at all when it comes to friendship. As long as there is a common interest, it doesn't matter how big of an age gap there is.

The whole, "I'm friends with someone who's older or younger than me by so-and-so number of years" usually is only a big thing when we're still in school because in high school, the people few years younger are generally less mature whereas the people few years senior are well, seniors. Not many seniors are interested in mixing with juniors.

However, the moment we hit college or university level, age..... just doesn't matter as much anymore. You can join an undergraduate program and see that there's a mixture of people of all ages, ranging from few years younger to sometimes decades older.

At the end of the day, it all depends on whether or not you're on the same wavelength.

[Tenshi]

Ever since I was a kid, my parents always encouraged me to hang around with my bro (to his dismay ) because all of my friends lived halfway across town. My brother is older than me by 2 years so most of his friends were of his age or a few years elder. And being the youngest I was always taken care by or counseled by them for some reason or another. Till date my closest friends consist of 2 people of my age and two of them 6 & 9 years older than me. I also have had friends who were nearly 20 years older than me.

I generally got along with people older than me because of my childhood and I found kids of my age fighting and longing for petty things. But that does not mean I avoid being with my generation or the younger lot. My youngest friend is 5 years old (neighbor's kid) & though I hate dolls I make sure to play with her tea set to make her happy. To me, connecting with the person inside is far more important that connecting to the outer person. Though it is sometimes rough to be seen with people much older than you because people are wondering why I don't hang around with kids my age but what can I say? they boot me into proper shape