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[mandla]

nothing hurtsd like the situation you are in buddy. A half open door sends such mixed signals I know this is hard for you cause your head doesnt know whether to heal or not. See if she said Im done f... off you know exactly where you stand and it hurts for a few weeks and its over you start to heal. You get on with your life. but when theres no closer you dont know whether you're wanted or not. You are in constant debate ion ytour heart and constant fear you'll be kicked out. Like being on death row and not knowing when the big day will come. I'd say just be brutal to be kind. Asume the worst and move in that direction. Tell yourself she's just to nice to hurt you directly and walk away. Block her from skype so you dont know whether she's contacted you or not. Dont contact her, avoid logging in to IM and skype because that only makes you wait and wwait for her to initiate conversation. See its easier to blame yourself and say it was me who blocked her because i was being stupid or I listened to that idiot Mandla of Knowledge sutra than to ask yourself why isnt she texting me or talking to me is she shutting me out, what is wrong because you wont get answers there and it will as a result only stress you out. so bite the bullet and make the move.

Maybe she doesnt realise how much you going through but if you mirror her treatment she'll understand how it felt one day. I was once in a similar situation with a girl in australia, same senario she started acting shady as if she did not wanna talk. I was a wreck emtionally but someone said do the same to her. but go further block her so you know why she hasn't contacted you. that way you not asking why hasnt she contacted me because you have the answer yet shes asking why has he stoppped contacting me. Whats going on has he found another. think about it. no one wants to be dumped. Even if you hated this girl you were dating and were on the bus going to break up with her and she calls you and says i dont want to be with you anymore suddenly you'll forget that you was on your way to dump her and you'll start saying but why cant we work things out. so the same applies here.

with the aussie girl she always said im busy planning for my lesson tommorow (she was a teacher) and im tied i have a lesson tommorow morning. I kept saying to her just 5 minutes a day is all i ask and she'd say thats fair but everytime i found her on line chatting to other people and then as soon as we start talking she'd realise how tired shewas and it was sleepy time as she called it. So I shut her out and a month later she was emailing me and literally stlking me, whats happeneing you dont talk to me and she was getting all upset. I said to her I will be busy sorting out my stuff for work and all that, When ever she initiated contact by phone i'd talkl for two minutes then say i have to go get my dinner at the chinese/ inidan/ KFC or nandos one excuse after the other and soon she was mad. Are you seeing anoither girl, tell me so i dont waste my time and feelings. And i asked her do you assume that im lying now because you were lying then. Because realise you were unavailable to be back then for 4 months saying you busy plannig your lesson plans and or sleepy time. how many times did i beg for five minutes a day and you said you were busy. did I accuse you of cheating. NO!! I say the same stuff to you and you go ape sh*t and say im cheating. What makes you think that when a person says they are busy they are lying and seeing someone else unless you have experience witht hat lie yourself. She tried to explain that with her it was different because she really was doign as she said but couldnt really say outside of her what the difference really was. Needless to say I told her exactly what my terms and conditions were if she wanted to continue this. I needed taking care of as much as her lesson plans and if she was gonna be putting sleepy time as priority then I was out. Unfortunately I had lost interest in her by then and shortly after that I just blcked her from email and skype and IM and never contacted her again. Mean but served her right.

be vague and justr answer her lazily like just lol or brb and never get back to her.

[nirvaman]

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Well, recently I've been in a long distance relationship for about 6 months over the internet with a girl I met online.

I personnally don't believe in cyber love !
I think that women are evil ( this is not me , but i've copied anwiii's words) , and out of control even when they are close to us , so what do you think about a women far away from you ? I still don't believe in cyberlove , it's a waste of time !

[missy2205]

I think you should ask her if everything is ok and ask for honest answer and that she doesnt have to lie to you. With girls they tend to get fed up as time goes on. What you need to do is go and see her if you can if you still want her. If she said she gives any excuses my friend just know that your girl has moved on so you need to do the same thing. I know its easier said than done but you need to move on with your life. You know before you see each other the relationship will be sweet but by the time you see each other maybe there is something that you dont like about each other or maybe there is something that irritated her on you something that she did quiet fancy. Just talk to her, dont let her waste your time. Life is too short to waste it. You deserve better than that.