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[joeblogg]

well i guess come and go. why not just try and make new friends but make sure they are the kind of friends that will stay with you throughout the whole journey. thoughout hardships and difficult times as well.

[tatati]

You need new friends. If you say you have 5 good friends, you must be one of their 5 or more good friends who is being no fun at all, they want to drink, you wont let them, they want to make drunken calls, you get in their way. Be a friend not a parent. Or get some more responsible friends who are into same stuff as you, or be less possessive of your friends because you sound like you are holding back on their fun, if you have this story to tell us, imagine all the other dirt they must discuss about you behind your back... try to enjoy your early years with your friends, sit back and watch them be inconsequent and stupid, you dont have to be their mom.

[anwiii]

i've been in your shoes bud and feel for ya. thing about friends from kindergarten though is they will always be your friends. usually for life.

during jr. high and especially high school though, people tend to start entering in to their own clicks and going seperate ways from their past ways. during this time people are finding their own selves and it is really a tricky situation because it puts people like you in a situation of confusion and right now you are missing your friends.

my best advice i can ever give you is to tell your friends what is on your mind. maybe there is something i don't know that you're not saying that something happened and they have every right to be upset with ya. if so, you better make ammends and work hard making up for whatever ya did....no matter how small YOU think it is, it ain't small to THEM. secondly, after telling them what's on your mind, ball's in their court. need to find other friends. this is a time to do it when you're in high school....and that's how it should be. don't limit yourself to just the friends you had in kendergarten r you will regret it later on.

what i mean by this is open your eyes to the possibilities of your own life. usually when one door closes, another door opens. if you have your eyes closes, you might miss this door and never walk through it. especially if you're distracted by other b.s. that is getting you emotional and hurt. don't let that afect how you live your life and the other possibilities around you. trust me....

eventually, i believe your friends will come around, but you may never be as close as you were when you were younger. i know it's f'd up, but that's the way life is sometimes BUT! you will always be friends. this i believe. so aside from telling them what is on your mind, give them their space and continue to live your own life. you need to find yourself too....life isn't supposed to be crappy all the time so enjoy the good things now while you still have a chance

[mbafactory]

Hey, it is quite normal if you try to be friends with each and everyone around, but it is foolish to keep on trying it for years and so on!
You must focus your energy on your important stuffs, let other than just thinking about your friends who hate you or do not care about you. It still looks childish that you are haunted with the search of reasons why would not they like to be your friends.
If they do not wish to be normal with you, they do not deserve your valuable friendship, so better you forget them and just be yourself.

Look it will give you a reason for the friends worth devoting your time. Let it be like this only, and if some one does not want to talk to you, or maintain a good relation it is their lose.
Hope you understand.

[iGuest]

Hi. Lately, ive been going through the same thing. Ive been depressed and sad and I cried a lot the past few months. I always kept thinking that it was something I had to deal with myself. I always kept telling myself that I just had to move on, and focus more on other things, like ins chool. Because you know what, ill being going to college soon, and hell yeah, ill probably be making better and more true friends there. But its super hard, letting go of it, and to just stop thinkign about it. Because why would someone who was so close to you, and that youve known for years, through thick and thin, would all of a sudden stop acting normal and the same with you. Its stupid, because then it gets you wonndering what you did. Or even if you know what you did, that how something would get them so mad or pissed off. And its even more hard when youve had such a fun past and such a special past with someone. From time to time I still think back on how much fun and laughter I shared with that person or that group of people. And it just sucks. But I'm constantly reading forums and absorbing quotes of wisdom, that just help me move on. Because maybe these friends were just out of convenience..Maybe this whole process is part of life, and well be able to learn something out of it. Anyways, teach yourself to move forward, and look forward, and make the best of right now. Its hard and its so cliche, but I always have a feeling that if I just keep telling myself, and reminding myself to move on, then maybe things will start to get better. Maybe all of us should just be a little more optimistic. Not exactly masking the sadness, but really killing the depression and tears, and really wearing a new attitude.Happiness is seeing the imperfect things perfectly...Remember?-reply by LAcT

[Allysaa]

T84, on Jun 26 2008, 05:48 AM, said:

Like the title and the description say, I'm losing all my friends... I have no idea what i did to them, no one can seem to give me an answer as to what i did or what i can do to try and fix it...

So far what I've gathered is out of 5 suspected friends that hate me 1 is a definate person that hates me. I really can't understand how this happened i hung out with my friend alex every day during summer 07 EVERY SINGLE DAY I'm not exagerating, not only during summer break but basicly from June to November. Then Christmas time came... everything was going as normal, by that i mean all of my friends and I were hanging out on a regular basis. New Years came and most of my friends decided to drink and they didn't have a little, two of them Corey(My freind that i know hates me) and Steve. We were all at my friend Anthony's house and his parents were upstairs, so we tried to keep Corey and Steve's profile low. Then they pulled a whole thing of vodka out of a backpack and started to drink again. My friend Anthony and I decided that it was best if we got the alcohol away from them, so I took the bottle and ran out of Anthony's house to go to Steve's house which is 2 blocks away to hide it. So I'm sprinting to Steve's house on New Years Eve, in a T-shirt, through a muddy feild, with a gallon of vodka. When i notice my other friend Stevyns run up next to me and say "hurry he is coming!" I turned back to see my friend Corey chasing us down the street... So Stevyns and I get to Steve's before Corey and I hide the vodka. Corey comes running up the driveway and asks me where the vodka is, so i told him that we drank it all. He believed us, but then he pulled out his phone and started to call a girl that he liked which he had already made several drunken phone calls to, so i thought that it would best if i took the phone from him because I thought if he liked her that might ruin his chance of a relationship with her. So i grabbed his phone away, and he started slapping and biting me, while telling me that he wanted to talk to her. After a few minutes I finally gave in and let him call her, but before i let him talk i explained to her the situation, apoligized and she seemed pretty understanding. So after the phone call we walked back to anthony's house and both me and Anthony tried our best to restrain Corey and Steve because they were very rowty(i guess thats the best word...) So basicly were that story ties in is that it is to the best of my memory the last time i'd see Corey when he was actually nice to me. As for Alex everything was basicly normal until around the start of volleyball season at my school. Thats when he started ignoring my calls and flat out ignoring me when i tried to talk to him face to face... I've been freinds with Alex for 12 years and i can't understand why he would just not want to be my friend... I mean if i was doing something to make him mad why wouldn't he just tell me or something? Another on of my friends Bob seems to hate me and i'm pretty sure he was about to tell me one time but he stopped in the middle of a word and changed it...

Truely only 3 of my friends actually seem to like me. Stevyns, Anthony, and Larry... Although Stevyns is really close friends to Corey... Stevyns realises that Corey hates me but told me that Corey never really gave him a reason as to why he hated me... Larry on the other hand, Anthony's twin brother seems to be drifting away from me, I really don't know how to explain it but it just seems that I'm losing him as a friend... Last but not least there is Anthony... Anthony... i don't even know how to set into words what he has done for me... he always seems to have my back and be there when I need him... iI feel horrible because i keep pressuring him to try and find out why they hate me because he sees or talks to Alex, Larry, Corey, Steve, and Bob everyday...

Honestly, I have no idea what to do... I'm so depressed i dont want to go to sleep at night because i know that i'm just going to wake up in the morning and sit at home alone all day...

I really need any and all advice that you can give me, I have no idea what to do... If you didn't understand something in there just ask me and i'll try my best to explain clearer...

I truely thank anyone that read that even if they don't reply but to those of you that do reply with advice or anything i'm truely indebted to you...

Oh this is so sad. I dont know how old you are, but I so remember all these situations from when I was younger. I know it's easier said than done, but maybe just be grateful of the friends you have! I dont have many 'true' friends, you just have to realise who's important enough to be in your life. Dont worry, you'll look back on this in a year, when you've moved on and realise what you have learnt.

[inverse_bloom]

Yeah this happened to me at the end of High School makes you miserable doesnt it? Before that point i had many friends. Im just wondering are you depressed since your friends have drifted a bit, or were you depressed before that point?

The unfortunate fact about depression is most people dont want to hang out with someone who cant smile and joke and "that" could be the problem. Just a thought...

Edited by inverse_bloom, 09 December 2009 - 07:39 AM.