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So, I started seeing this girl after breaking up with my ex, who was pregnant (long story, I taking care of my responsibilities, or trying at least). a few weeks into the "relationship" I started talking to said ex, who had disappeared after we broke up and refused to let me have contact or any info about my daughter (). I of course being smart, open and honest, told the new "girlfriend" about me talking to her, more so to pass on that I now knew about my daughter and share my happiness. She then proceeded on a 20 minute rant about how she didn't like being tossed to the side for my ex, and how thats not fair to her, and she thought we had something, yada yada yada. I tried to explain things to here, letting her know that I was calling to tell her about my daughter, who I just finally got a name and bday and so on for, thinkingf she (the new "girlfriend") would be happy for me, but I guess I was wrong. The Funniest part is, that night she accepted a job 1hr 45minutes away and was moving, but called me to tell me she was sorry and was wondering what the chances of us getting back together were. I laughed and told her none, I could never get over her reaction, and then I told her to have a nice life in her new town.

what are your thoughts on it?

P.S. The new "girlfriend" was aware of the situation before we started "dating"

[Saint_Michael]

Your a Moron that is all I have to say, thus the reason men are the most stupidest beings on Earth, I won't be surprise if she becomes a lesbian because of you. There are not many chances in life to fix a relationship and instead of trying to fix it, you literally tossed her aside and added another check mark in your black book of girls you did.

Like I said moron.

[bishoujo]

100% agree with Saint Michael that you are a moron. You sound as though you're treating this like a laugh.

Which normal woman would like to hear that her boyfriend has been on better terms with his ex? If your girlfriend suddenly told you that she's been contacting her bf more often, would you 'share her joy'? Sure she knew about your situation, but did you tell her what to expect? Did you tell her that she should expect that you'd be interacting more with your ex because of your daughter? Did you tell her you'd have to sacrifice time together with her because you need to look out for your family? If you didn't make sure that she understood what is expected of her before you both started a relationship, then you have absolutely no right to call her 'screwed up'. Judging that you are someone who generalizes issues, like calling the rest of the woman population screwed up when you don't even know us, you deserve what she did to you, which is far less of what you deserve.

I really hope your new ex-girlfriend has a better life in her new town. She deserves a far better person than you.

Edited by bishoujo, 11 July 2008 - 09:41 AM.

[anwiii]

ahhh i disagree with the two comments. you don't sound like a moron. just inexperience with women in general and you are taking this stuff too light hearted like you don't care about your relationships.

you were right on the money to dump this other girl who had no understanding of your past or your daughter. kids come first above all in my eyes.

BUT!

first off, how can you be taking care of your responsibilities when you are just now finding out about your daughter?

second off, can't really give an opinion here not knowing why your ex and you broke up.

you did good by tellin' the other girl off though. she seems controlling and immature and insensitive and non understanding and the list goes on haha she needs to grow up and mature a little. some guys like the jealousy. maybe you do to. maybe you told her as a reason to break up because you already knew her reaction.

so all in all, women aren't really screwed up....well....some of 'm hahaha but my point is the ones that are screwed up are the ones that don't know what they want yet and take advantage of others and emotions in the meantime when you can't even keep a commitment.

life is a learning experience and relationships are hard and they take WORK. they aren't easy like dating. with a relationship, you're actually combining your life with another....almost like a marriage with a lessor degree of sacredness attachewd to it.

do me a favor though. don't have anymore kids til your married and can keep your commitments. kids are #1 and they deserve a mother AND a father together in a balanced home environment.

i'm happy though that your ex called to talk about your daughter. +1 for your ex there. i hope your ready to be a dad and a father bud. if not, better start learning. kids are GREAT. we as adults who have experienced a lot in life can still learn from kids. they're pure without the b.s. of how life has altered us along the way. now if don't have enough money for child support, don't ever let that interfere with your ability to spend time with your daughter. and please. don't teach her to get involved with the guys that will eventually dump them when they are to have a child together. i am sure she will grow up to be better than that. watcha think?

on a side note. i remember breaking up with an ex that i didn't even have a kid with. took me over a year to start dating again. how easy was it for you or how meaningfull of a relationship was it to start dating right after you broke up? you need some maturing up yourself too.

[kobra500]

Was that a joke?, I mean I know the british sense of humour is different from Canada and the US but I pretty sure that it isn't funny for them either.

So basically what your saying is, you dumped something good in your life because of an argument. What, you trying to show your dominance or something. "How dare you shout at me, your dumped" then you come on this forum, act like your in the right, treat it as a big joke.

No wonder the mother of your child is so unwilling to give news of your baby, probably doesn't want your daughter to turn anything like you.

So heres some advice for you. Sort your life out, learn some respect for women and then make something of your life. Because otherwise your gonna regret you not seeing your daughter for the rest of your life.

You made a mistake the 1st time, but you didn't learn from it and you made it again, you have no one to blame except yourself.

Edited by kobra500, 12 July 2008 - 01:51 AM.

[NinjaNT]

I guess this is my weird mind speaking but I actually think its funny what happened. She kind of deserved it. She won't go lesbian over something like that. She yelled at you because you talked to your ex about your daughter, which implies she wasn't to bright, and incapable of listening. If she was going to yell at you for just talking to her about that, it would have only gotten worse when you went to spend time with your daughter. Good riddance to stupidity.

Oh, and just for you little cynics out there, I'm a girl telling him this. Not a guy. I would hope if I was ever that stupid the same thing would happen to me.

Edited by NinjaNT, 13 July 2008 - 09:45 AM.

[kobra500]

No ones disagreeing with that bit, it's the

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The Funniest part is, that night she accepted a job 1hr 45minutes away and was moving, but called me to tell me she was sorry and was wondering what the chances of us getting back together were. I laughed and told her none, I could never get over her reaction, and then I told her to have a nice life in her new town.

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Saint_Michael, on Jul 10 2008, 09:37 PM, said:

Your a Moron that is all I have to say, thus the reason men are the most stupidest beings on Earth, I won't be surprise if she becomes a lesbian because of you. There are not many chances in life to fix a relationship and instead of trying to fix it, you literally tossed her aside and added another check mark in your black book of girls you did.

Like I said moron.

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100% agree with Saint Michael that you are a moron. You sound as though you're treating this like a laugh.

Which normal woman would like to hear that her boyfriend has been on better terms with his ex? If your girlfriend suddenly told you that she's been contacting her bf more often, would you 'share her joy'? Sure she knew about your situation, but did you tell her what to expect? Did you tell her that she should expect that you'd be interacting more with your ex because of your daughter? Did you tell her you'd have to sacrifice time together with her because you need to look out for your family? If you didn't make sure that she understood what is expected of her before you both started a relationship, then you have absolutely no right to call her 'screwed up'. Judging that you are someone who generalizes issues, like calling the rest of the woman population screwed up when you don't even know us, you deserve what she did to you, which is far less of what you deserve.

I really hope your new ex-girlfriend has a better life in her new town. She deserves a far better person than you.

Ok U two, I think your missing the point here, How am I supposed to have a relationship with a woman who flips out over the fact that I am talking to the mother of my child? She was made aware before we started seeing each other that my daughter will always come first, and at the time she seemed to understand and even agree with me, but when I call to share the good news that I know know her name and such, she flips out, but Im the moron?

[Saint_Michael]

Um yes, because of the fact you should have worked things out with the mother of your child before looking for another woman. As it seems in that long story short, the only thin you took care of was finding out your daughters name and all that stuff. Of course, the next part to you being a moron was the fact you took that fight so personal that instead of fixing it with this other girl you basically told her to go to hell when she wanted to fix things.

With those two reasons I stand by my position.

[.:Piper_2051:.]

Saint_Michael, on Jul 14 2008, 01:15 PM, said:

Um yes, because of the fact you should have worked things out with the mother of your child before looking for another woman. As it seems in that long story short, the only thin you took care of was finding out your daughters name and all that stuff. Of course, the next part to you being a moron was the fact you took that fight so personal that instead of fixing it with this other girl you basically told her to go to hell when she wanted to fix things.

With those two reasons I stand by my position.

and although I respect your opinion here S/M, Your wrong,My daughter was born in May, the 24th to be exact, and I just last Friday, managed to get a hold of her mother, who dropped off the face of the earth for a little while (Since the middle of May) during which time I was working my rear end of at work, and trying to track the ex down and find my daughter, make sure she was ok, see if they needed anything, etc etc etc. How can I not take it personal? The new woman freaks out because I'm talking to my ex, about our daughter, and she thinks that after about a week of seeing each other she has the right to complain and argue about my dealings with the mother of my child? I don't think so, any woman in my life comes second to my daughter, end of story, and if that makes me a moron, imbecile or any other flagrantly descriptive word you wish to misuse, then so be it, but my daughter is #1, has been since she was conceived.