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[Mermaid711]

Dodger, on Feb 2 2005, 04:53 PM, said:

My wife got on my case this morning about my leaving the toilet seat lid up during the night when I got up to take a whiz. Apparently she almost took the plunge when she went in there in the dark and took a seat.

You just answered your own question. How would you like it if you almost fell in a toilet, because your spouse is to lazy to put the seat down? Frankly, I don't like the idea.

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My response to her was that she never lifts the lid for me after she's done, so why do I need to put the lid down when I'm finished. Why can't everyone just look out for themselves when it comes to peeing? Is this too much too ask? Do women not want equal rights in the toilet area?

We don't lift the lid for you because a.) Nothing (other than the bowl) is nastier than the underside of a toilet seat, and b.) She might have to use it again before you do. And you need to put the lid down when you are finished because that is polite, and what a gentelman would do So, technicly if you don't do it, it means you don't consider her very much, and you're a rude man.

[Tetraca]

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We don't lift the lid for you because a.) Nothing (other than the bowl) is nastier than the underside of a toilet seat

Ever turned a doorknob? There's more bacteria and virii on a doorknob than a toilet seat. Mysophobia is not an excuse for not being able to lift up a toliet seat.

Ever wonder why when you go to a public bathroom and you use the stall you see that the toilet seat is a horseshoe shape rather than an oval? That's to shutup this little argument as well as to contend with those that have mysophobia. If we all had horseshoe toilet seats there wouldn't be an argument between anyone for such a stupid little thing because it's unisex when down.

[FLaKes]

Omg that is so... well I think it is really silly to fight over something like this. Of course I would leave the lid down and be a gentleman but what if I forget one day? Why would people fight over a lid, its not that hard to move the lid, and how can you sit on something you cant see? what if there was a spider? tell her to check what she is going to sit on, reminds me of the guy with white pants that just came in the movie theater and sat without looking where he sat. As he sat down, I heard a crunch, then the guy got up and I could see cheese all over his pants. Lol, as soon as he turned around and realized what he had sat on, he didnt really know hot to react. He just threw his hands up in the air screaming and yelling. It was really funny, but not for him I guess. Lesson learned...

[patrickcurl]

Hmm.......Here's another solution, us guys can sit and pee, put a tv in the john, a little mini-fridge, and make it an event.

I do that sometimes at night, when I'm too tired to stand up straight, and it's not so bad.

But I can definitely see the argument here, I must admit, I leave the seat up bout 75% of the time, and my wife has stopped complaining, of course when we go to visit the inlaws it's another thing, her brother and dad have been successfully 'trained' it seems, and I sometimes forget, and there's 3 angry women, besides my wife... and woah.... you do not want to make them angry...they all know how to handle weapons, lol. (They go trapshooting as a hobby, and hunt every season, where as I'm a city boy and have been shooting like 3 times in my life...lol)

[bishoujo]

Actually, I don't know what the fuss is either! When there's any male member in my house, I never complain when they don't put down the toilet seat. It really doesn't take much effort to put it up or down myself. And I agree... I always check the toilet before I use it lol. I'd never use the toilet in pitch darkness.

[arnz]

Being a guy myself, I normally put the seat up when i'm out at a friends/relatives/aunty/uncle/grandma/grandpas place etc (usually out of courtesy and habit). But whilst at home, I normally just leave it down, only except when we have some visitors/friends over at the house.

[WindyDreams]

Every thing has to be like a forced issues in Just doing something for one you love out Respect ,or just because You Love that person .
Simple put .
Should never be a issue or Debate in a marriage ,if you open the door or pay for dinner or put toilet seat down or Who would be the first to offer something of themselves not because had too ,because you wanted too ,with love and respect .

A marriage or relationship should just happen and flow within ,of what you want offer self to one you Love with nothing in return of expectations .

I for one yes ,get up in middle night ,wander to bathroom and do not expect to sit down and seat is up ,I admit honest that ,It has happened many times to me in night or if was in a hurry ,I don't look ,simple at same time I just ,put toilet seat down ,without complaining about it to my Husband ,as it's like this if he does not want do that ,that is okay ,I would of done it for him although ,as Wife ,there are many areas ,a wife does for her Husband each day ,that really come on guys ,have you ever washed your boxers and wonder ,How you could of wore them ,thank goodness ,you decided to change that day .
Although see it's your wife ,normally washes those Boxers and never complains .
Now would be a different story if your wife ,made a flag of protest out those boxers in our front yard as a Debate now wouldn't t .

So toilet seat ,seems kind of lame to be complaining about it between men and women ,it really depends on issues of Respecting each other or just doing small things you know ,your partner would like ,because you love each other ,without any Debates .

Simple really is .

[rayzoredge]

It's out of courtesy that you should put the seat down or put the seat up. You can throw love in there... but I sure as hell won't prioritize it as something that I would base my relationship on.

The seat doesn't stay down while guys go to use it because although we can aim DURING the flow of urine, it goes in random directions at the very beginning and at the very end, ending up on the seat itself. To give you a mental image, try pinching a garden hose before turning it on, then let the water pressure straighten the flow out. Where does the water go at first? Where does it go when you go to turn the water off and pinch the hose? Nobody knows. And I'm sure that I don't even need to get into the random postures that a guy has to attain to urinate with "morning wood."

It's not a straight shot every time, girls. That's why urinals are designed the way they are.

As far as remembering to put the seat down "out of necessity," I can't remember the last time that any girl put the seat up for me.

I don't know about you, but I wash my hands after I use the bathroom, so that removes the whole nastiness/germ argument. If anyone is really that squeamish, use a couple of sheets of toilet paper, or apply pressure to the side of the seat to bring it up instead of actually grabbing it.

P.S. This is a great discussion.

[i_speel_good]

Their problem is for idiots that don't flush dirty toilets...
But some women freak out even with clean toilets, for some reason.

[arnz]

Reply to the above, its why many 'public' toilets are so horribly disgusting and poorly maintained. Apart from the P.Toilets in major megaplexes (or huge shopping plaza/centres/complexes/etc). I know a few friends that even bring their own toilet paper and wrap it around the seat just to prevent themselves from getting some kind of 'disease' or sickness. I probably dont blame some of them if its in a poorly maintained Public Toilet.

[wordpress_lover]

I guess that makes me the odd one out
(amongst many women)! I like the toilet
lid UP after I've used it.

Reason: lesser area surface to get dusty
for the time that no one uses the toilet!

Regardless of whether the lid was up or not,
ppl should learn not to BLAME and look out for
their own safety. What if there was a Roach
there with the toilet lid down? Who can the
person blame?

Okie women, at least I am being fair here, right?

It's not that hard to lift the lid UP or DOWN.

[Bobx23456]

Why are men still fighting women because we don't have urinals in our home. When indoor plumbing came into common use a century ago men were still going out behind the barn to take a wizz. In the century since, cars have replaced horses, we no longer even have a barn or stable in our yard, but we still don't have indoor plumbing for men in our homes. Its not like plumbing for men is a mystery. We find them at virtually all public and work places. But in our homes we have to make do with a fixture that was never designed for men to take a wizz. Since 2000 some high end homes now have "his" toilet areas with urinals. In average people's homes they plumbing industry says "women don't want them." Of course women don't want plumbing for men. Women would rather whine about "put the seat down."

I say nuts to her. If she put the LID down after doing her business she would never be expecting to sit without lifting the lid first. But the real answer is for MEN to demand that our homes have plumbing for men. We live here too!

Blessings

Bob

[isdrobotica]

I think most women are confused, because they think equalmeans the same rights but not the same responsabilities....when a girl tells me why am i not a gentleman...then I say ok you want me to be a gentleman...then what are you doing in college...women should not study , women should be in the house...some girls get my point some dont want to gent my point...and some just dont get it....what do you girls and guys think

[salamangkero]

That's funny, I never had that problem with my past boyfriends

Seriously though, I think it is only right that whoever last used the toilet seat should leave it as they will. I've read an article about a man's 10 wishes to his wife and there was one saying, "I wish you'd learn to work the toilet seat. We want it up, you want it down."

I mean, what kind of idiot just sits down on a toilet without checking for the seat? And what kind of bigger idiot falls into the toilet?

[Juxt]

Yeah really, it's not too hard to lift it up or put it down before you do your stuff.

I'm curious, does this happen a lot? Do women really want the toilet seat down?

[yellowbear]

I'm a woman and I couldn't care less if the toilet seat is left up or down. Life is too short to get miffed over petty things.

Edited by yellowbear, 19 September 2008 - 09:34 PM.

[chrismiller3404]

Because some women don't look before they sit. I know I've done it before. =x

[LastCause]

lol just finished reading all the posts. This topic makes me feel happy inside

I am not the only one!!!! XD


i had stuff thrown at me cuz of this crap

Edited by LastCause, 27 July 2009 - 03:53 AM.

[sheepdog]

Well, all I can say is if you've ever taken the "plunge" in the middle of the night when you are half asleep and forgot to look, or you have a rude visitor in your home that leaves it up after you have manged to train your own better half, you wouldn't even have to ask such a dumb question. It's just a nasty landing.

Why do men have to have such a fit over a womans simple request? Is it not possible to be respectuful anymore without it becoming a equality issue? If it upsets your woman, why do you have to be an *bottom* and leave it up? Such a simple thing to do to keep peace in the home, why is it such a big deal? Put the dang thing down! Keep in mind, men allready have a big advantage over woman in the peeing department. You guys can go anywhere you can hang it out. We have to have our toilets. Cut us gals some slack would ya?

[jomonkoyippally]

Well we guys keep the toilet seat up not to spoil it when we sand and pass urin..
we do it for you too..

if we put it up for our use. you can put it down for your use.

[LargeCar]

madisonn, on Feb 2 2005, 05:28 PM, said:

I don't think its very nice to come along and have to pull down the toilet seat, why the need to put it up anyway? You can still pee with it down.

Yeah if you like to set on pee that would be cool. I always put the seat back down and put the lid down. That way everyone gets to do something. The lid is there for a reason.

[Quatrux]

Oh, this is really a problem for some women, I usually close the lid after finishing, so that someone will need to open it, I think all it requires is habit, sometimes I'm just lazy to do it.

If a man lived for some years with some friends, the toilet seat usually will be up, and some women might tell something, but also it depends, some women just don't say anything, they do everything them self, it's not that by closing or opening you will miss something, it's not even hard to do it, it's just a manner of nerves?

But I agree that sometimes, when the toilet seat is up, I sit and only then notice something bad it's as was told above, that you're usually sleepy and don't look But again, it's not something tragic, you can close the seat and continue

[webishqiptar]

that's pretty ridiculous, I never heard a debate between a wife and husband complaining on the fact that why did you live the lid open or closed. Well as times are advancing people may want to be totally alone, living alone and with all the things that they don't like. These people of nowaday are complaining about everything and they find it difficult to tolerate and have tolerance between married people.

[SaraInWasteland]

I'm a girl and I have a male roommate. (Just for clarification, it goes no further than being roommates and friends.) He's actually pretty good about putting the seat down, but every once in a while he doesn't. It doesn't bother me though. If I walk in and the seat's up, I just put it back down, do my business, and go on about my day. I don't understand why some women make such a big deal out of it.