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[anwiii]

i agree sheepie... i have a lot of acquaintances in my life. but true friends? very few. i know they would do anything for me if i asked. unfortunately, i never ask. i even go so far as not contacting them as much as i should. i know they don't like it, but they know me to know i would always be there for them too.

quality is DEFINATELY better than quantity. just ask google. they will say the same same. the admins of this forum if they were ever around to comment.
to me, a person with a lot of "friends" is a person who is trying to prove something....either to others or to themselves. also, just because someone is charismatic doesn't mean anything where true friendship is concerned

take for example opaque. he's very popular here. doesn't mean he himself is a good friend to anyone here when he can do what he is doing and it doesn't mean he made friends here when everyone is leaving this place without a second thought about a "friendship"

[Iniyila]

Yes i agree too, a few real friends even only one is a lot better than a lot of friends but having no real friend, in my case i call a friend real when s/he does some important things for me, first when i call her/him doesn't tell me that is busy or do not reject my call only because s/he wants to sleep more. a real friend should be always as a wall for you to rely on it, i actually have tree real friends and they are always nice with me, i never saw any bad behavior from them and of course i can rely on them in every aspect of my life and i can be sure that they will do the best they can for me and of course keeping a real friend is a hard work, you have to spend a lot of your time with real friends and this is why you can not have thousands of real friends because your time is limited and you can not be 48 hours a day with your real friends.

Now as i prefer to be with my friends every week at least once so some type of friendships are just not working for me, like the face book, i can see many peoples saying that we have friends but when i say that bring your friends then i find out all of his/her friends are only behind a LCD and only can talk with them through a wire, i don't say that we can not be friends, i say that real friend should be with you when you are sick and need help, this is my definition for a real friend. but of course we all are friends with many peoples over internet and even know them for more than 10 years so they are a part of our life and we can not forget them. one of the things that have made being friend harder is the things that your friends expect to see from you, most of peoples doesn't say what they want you to do and this is not good because i saw many peoples just trying to be away from other without saying why they are doing this, i have the chance to be with friends that say all of their expectations to me without any doubt or being shy and so i think all of real friends should be like this.

Another thing that i believe in is that number of friends is not important at all, you may have thousand of friends but when you are alone and want somebody to talk to you find no one and this means that all of your friends are only having the name of being friend and none of them are real friends for you. i have 530 friends in my face book but it doesn't mean that all of them are my real friends, and even those tree real friends of mine are not in my facebook friend list. actually i think that this is one of the disadvantages of computer that we only try to find friends over internet and this makes us more lonely because we will not go out anymore to be with our friends and we try to find them in facebook or tweeter. now i think no one can have thousands of real friends because you have to give each of them specific time in your week and this means you can not have unlimited number of real friends and of course in all of your friends you will have only one as best friend and you need to give her/him more time than your other friends.

So in the end i prefer to have at least a real friend and it doesn't matter for me to have thousands of friends and only have one real in them or having only one and he/she be my real one too but anyway no one can say that having an active wall in facebook is a bad thing, so if you have some real friends go and find some more friends too so you will be more happy in your life.

[iAssistant]

You can meet a lot of people in the world, whether classmates, workmates or neighbors but they are not friends but they are acquaintance. You will only meet a few friends who will believe in you when the rest of the world don't. A have many trusted friends and I am lucky but not all of them are near, many of them are abroad working but we keep in touch and giving advice whenever necessary.

[prashansas]

I believe in the phrase that says "Two is a team and Three is a crowd". So likewise i would prefer choosing and having a limited set of friends whom i can reach out to anytime and who i know would always be there. Because having a huge group of friends is not always good as too you don't get enough time to know each and everyone amongst your friend circle and the dangers would also be more. But If you have a limited set of friends you get time to interact with each and everyone personally and build a good rapo. Also you get time to know each other's positive and negative aspects.
Where as in a huge circle of friends this is usually difficult to do. So I would prefer a small set of friends.

[udayvedanthuman]

It is a not a question that how many friends you have...the question is can you connect with them. Are they very important to you? Do they mean too much for you? For them, do you hold any importance.

If there are friends, who are not bothered about me. Why I have to be with them? I am more comfortable being what I am...the saying is there, it is better to be on your own, rather then with wrong people.

It is better to be with few good friends or maybe on my own.