Posted 02 January 2010 - 06:03 PM
I believe somewhere along the line, religion but not just religion itself, it's those who used "religion" or "in the name of god" to create supplemental laws to have dominance over females. It's the master-slave relationship. It's the god-mortal connection. And along the line men placed themselves equal to a god's level.
Whatever your religion may be I think we are all familiar with the role of man and woman because they are stated in respected religion's book. And the physical attributes of man further solidified what would be self-fulfilling prophecy: man are stronger thus they are better adapted for hunting and gathering food. And I'm thinking along the line it went something like this, "man are stronger thus will hunt and gather food and should rest for the next day's hunting. Therefore, woman will tender to man's needs to ensure survival."
Sounds pretty ridiculous, I know. So is the mentality that man are suppose to do this and woman are suppose to do this. When a culture is built on a belief that man is bread winner and woman is family nurturer, it's inevitable to pass down the formula that works to raise a successful family.
What it should have happened is that attributes that made each sex to be better at things should have been taught to "complement" the other and unite to create something better, like better family. Instead of focusing on each other's role there should have been the focus on role to bring better next generation. The role should have been established as the building block rather than the final result.
But, the phrase gender equality cannot comprise the whole aspect for all genders. Obviously man cannot give birth. A man can protest and cry to have equal in giving birth process but physically a man is incapable to do so. A woman cannot build up muscles to sustain physically enduring labor for the rest of her life. I'm not talking about some women who are strong, I'm talking about woman as whole. But a man can tougher physical work longer. You get the general idea.
So, in the age where hard physical labor is not necessary the main life sustaining means, "gender equality" questions the role which man and woman play. I believe, if man and woman were "raised" properly, then a man would come home, say hello to his wife, tell his kids he loves them, take out the trash, perhaps fix the squeaking door, help with meal menu, brings out plates and sit down with his family for a nice conversation and reflection. A woman would have started her day with her kids or go to work, pickup some grocery for later day's meal, show much affection to kids, teach them in subtle way about love and family, welcome her husband, sit down with her family for a nice conversation and reflection. It's not that each has specific duties through out the day but that whatever they may do it was all about bringing and enjoying as a family.
And the gender gap would not be as great as one might think because a man would be inclined to find a woman who is independent, strong yet able to work as a team in raising a family. A woman would also look for the same and participate in the same family establishment. The two would be aiming for the same goal. They may be divided in terms of contributing different components to complete the puzzle, but both happily contribute because they both want to obtain the same goal.
However, decades, centuries and millenniums of arrogance that man is this and woman is this... what you are end up is what you see today. Women are consistently paid less than men. Men are shoved into a role of working hard, earning the money to feed the family. While men are at work women are left with cooking, cleaning, raising children and tender to men from their hard days at work. Men must show little emotion to display tough exterior. Women must show tenderness. And goes on and on and on... While many have broke free from this stereotype it will be long before every one is free. But it's also misleading that breaking free from this stereotype is a good thing.
I believe everyone has a role to play in his or her life time. And finding the complementing opposite partner is part of playing this crucial role. Then maybe we can see some equality.