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[FoxGirl]

I was in a long term relationship with a man for 4 years and all of a sudden it was over due to him talking to a girl that lived across the street and it was getting into a sexual manor. After we broke up he was still saying that he loved me and that he didn't want me to leave and that he wanted to work things out. I still decided to move out and now I have found out some very hurtful facts of what he is doing now. He is now engaged to a 20 year old girl that he has known for a month and a half. He is almost 35 years old. She has a child by another man and has a very dark past. He has also gotten a marriage licence. I ran into him at walmart and he was buying a pregnance test. She lives with him and they are buying a house.....

How can he just move on like that? Why isn't he hurting like I am?

Was I that easy to forget.?

(help me)

[OpaQue]

WOW... You really got messed up there... (very sorry to hear all this, I understand 4 years is not a joke). But Now you know the Truth. So please, be more careful and learn to put more effort in your future relationship being a Girl. :-)

I strongly suggest making new friends and starting life all over again. Not with another relationship... but first, enjoy your single life till you get bored with it. :-)

If the world seems to move tooooo fast, Just Meditate 4 sum time

I can talk about your HIM... but its useless talking about him as he was clearly playing with you. If a guy is cheating on you, its obvious.. he just liked you.. not loved you. Thats why, if he was cheating on you... Dear, he has already forgotten about you. Its time, you throw him out too and re-claim your life.

[web_designer]

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WOW... You really got messed up there... (very sorry to hear all this, I understand 4 years is not a joke). But Now you know the Truth. So please, be more careful and learn to put more effort in your future relationship being a Girl. :-)

I strongly suggest making new friends and starting life all over again. Not with another relationship... but first, enjoy your single life till you get bored with it. :-)

If the world seems to move tooooo fast, Just Meditate 4 sum time

I can talk about your HIM... but its useless talking about him as he was clearly playing with you. If a guy is cheating on you, its obvious.. he just liked you.. not loved you. Thats why, if he was cheating on you... Dear, he has already forgotten about you. Its time, you throw him out too and re-claim your life.

never agree more, opaque is right in every single word. i always say, if someone stepped on you and on your love, step on him too. never make the past hurt you, obviously what he felt towards you isn't love, and he doesn't deserve what you offering him.

so continue your life, forgot about him. and have a new life, hopping it will better than before.

[anwiii]

i am sorry you have to experience that. just fel lucky that you got out while you still could. and as far as being hurt that he can move on so easily? don't be.....his relationship wont last. he doesn't even know her and she is getting played just like you did because as it turns out, he doesn't even know what he wants.

seriously though, feel lucky that you found out about his insecure behavior before you married him. it could have been worse. you just have to learn from this experience and move on. don't think about how great his life is right now because it's not so great when you really think about it. sometimes out own selfishness gets in the way of life. i mean, we always want someone to return the same type of love that we give ourselves and we get hurt if that doesn't happen.

like i said, this is a learning experience and learning experiences aren't meant to be happy all the time you will be ok.

[sukhi]

@Foxgirl : Very sorry to hear this. leave the guy rigth away. It will be hard at the start but such breakups happen every second in the world and we have all gone through the same.
Clearly you have been cheated by this guy but i know you love him so much and shall be not easy to forget him that fast. But trust me what you sow is what you reap. you will find one
day that that girl has also ditched this guy and or vice versa. these people have no morals in them and try to see short term advantages instead of looking at long term fruits of happiness:)
No matter how much we counsel you , I know that you have to face all this alone but I am sure you will come out of this and find a good guy sooooooon

Take care and be Safe !

[FoxGirl]

thank you everyone that has written something about this matter....I am going to let you all know that I have moved out and I am doing the single life for now...I need to get back on my feet and find myself again....and have fun doing it...its still hard to deal with but I know that I will get threw it and come out to be the happy one...thank you all again and please keep writting...

[chini13]

Where their is too much of trust u have to pay the price of it.IF the guy do not bothers about you why do you think so much.There are many good people on this earth don't waste your time thinking on someone who already has moved on.You have to move on lead a busy happy life.Don't forget to learn a lesson from this beware the next time.We should not just fall for love but can't help it, it happens and we fall into it

[web_designer]

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thank you everyone that has written something about this matter....I am going to let you all know that I have moved out and I am doing the single life for now...I need to get back on my feet and find myself again....and have fun doing it...its still hard to deal with but I know that I will get threw it and come out to be the happy one...thank you all again and please keep writting..

well done, i am really proud of you. i know it is a hard thing to do, but definitely it is the right thing for you and for your future. we shouldn't stick in our past, especially, when it is not worth, but we should learn from it and make sure not to repeat the same mistake again. 

hope you a happy new life, just focus on your goals in life, on what you want to do next and keep on going, and you will be fine, good luck.

[FoxGirl]

well more information about the matter which I have just found out about due to my ex making it a point to tell me and send me pictures about it...the 20 year old girl that he is engaged to is now pregnant with his child...Why is it when a couple breaks up one of them decides it is a must to rub things in the others face? But it is just another reason to move one and thank my lucky stars that it isn't me and that I didn't end up with him or pregnant.

tell me what you think

[anwiii]

like i said in my previous post. just feel lucky you found out sooner than later.

and like opaque said, don't go jumping in to another relationship because of loneliness or dispare. it's best to be by yourself right now because like chini said, you need to learn from this experience

even the crappy experiences in life are good ones if we can learn from them. if we can't, we will just be holding on to the hurt, anger and bitterness with no closure.

a word to the wise. you still have choices. cut off ALL communication with him or you are just setting yourself up to be hurt again. you don't need that right now. you are hurt enough! this guy sounds like a real jerk(to put it mildly)!