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[sukhi]

FoxGirl, on 13 June 2010 - 03:02 AM, said:

well more information about the matter which I have just found out about due to my ex making it a point to tell me and send me pictures about it...the 20 year old girl that he is engaged to is now pregnant with his child...Why is it when a couple breaks up one of them decides it is a must to rub things in the others face? But it is just another reason to move one and thank my lucky stars that it isn't me and that I didn't end up with him or pregnant.

tell me what you think

this guy wants to make you sad by showing of his new "booty ". What you can do are 2 things :
1. You get a BF for yourself and show it off to him.
2. You go and congratulate him for getting a kid for himself with a nice greeting card.

Just try the second one and he will surely be getting nightmares after you do the second thing. He will be devastated. In such matters of intangibles , the best way is to make him feel that his actions have no effect on you and that you are still being a well - wisher and that you dont care 2 damn for this girl or his kid or his life. this I am suggesting only because he is trying to offend you with his new girl etc. He is evil and you need to show you are an angel. that would make him go crazy when he sleeps in the night and later on he will be repentant too.

All the best girl !

[web_designer]

GOD, you are really lucky to found out the truth and get rid of him, nothing worse than spending your life living in a lie. hope you learned a lot from such relationship so that in the future you can know better about people and how to deal with them. we all learn from our mistakes and experiences in life. now you should only focus on your future and move on, wish you luck. 

[mandla]

Wow. Thats really hurtfully girl. But that's life. I know you probably dont want to hear this kind of talk especially when your are hurting. But this guy is an idiot. He should not be doing this to you. But then you know life is there are people who will have a great thing going but just for some reason get greedy or blind to whats good and go astray. In this case to be honest I think the person who regrets more the decision to move on with other people is him not you. After all why is he sending you the pictures and updates. He's just trying to hurt you and rub it in so you react. He probably expected you to go all psycho on him and beg and cry but you probably handled it all to gracefully for his plans and now he is trying to rub it in and make sure you are fully aware to what extent things are so you can cry and beg and hurt.

Such people have no self esteem and no dignity so you should not even waste your time on him. He is not regretting what he did and sayign he's sorry but he's trying to make sure you are hurt beyond repair so he will become immortal in your life. As you will always think of how badly he hurt you and how much pain he caused you. Obviously he didnt make much of an impression hence hes still trying to make one after he has left you.

its wierd how he's already an expentent parent with a girl almost half his age and with only a month of dating her thats very quick even for shortgun marriages but hey. Sometimes the only way he will get over you is by doing a rebound relationship but then marriage is a major step. I bet you if he aint careful they will be divorcing soon. I mean they dont even know each other that well and the age thing comes into play, what if she wants to go out like other 20 year olds how long will he handle waiting at home while she gets high and snogs cute boys at the club. With you, it was a time thing were you both grew to tolerate each other and know each other. You understood what upset him and he knew how not to piss you off so it was commgfortable living in same house. but think of the first days how much compromise was there. and will a 20 year old be willing to make those same compromises.

I say just keep busy go out with friends and keep busy on your work or knowledgesutra forums just keep your mind off him and if he mails you, dont waste you empotions getting stressed thinking he's begging you back only to see pics of the baby scan or his new hussy, just delete them or better still block him from your inbox or facebuk just shut him out that way you will forget him easier.

THis is just my opinion you decide at the end of the day what works for you dear. but the more you keep reading his mails the more everythign will just flood to the front of your brain including the pain. Its better to just block it all out and it will be easier to move on.

[mandla]

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2. You go and congratulate him for getting a kid for himself with a nice greeting card

yeah this is a great idea. Get two greeting cards and send them to him. 1 for the 20 yr old kid and the other for the few weeks old kid to be born in future. lol. That would really get him worked up. right now he thinks he's in the control seat turn the tables around and say something mean to him. one thing that will totally wipe the smile of his face like . the only reason i stayed with you was because I was f**king your best friend or because the day you asked me out I was hoping your friend would make a move on me but he didn't so I settled for you instead.

And to be honest i secretly aborted of your babies because i could not bear to have a piece of you inside me for more than 5 minutes.

Edited by mandla, 25 June 2010 - 09:38 PM.

[anwiii]

mandla, on 25 June 2010 - 09:33 PM, said:

yeah this is a great idea. Get two greeting cards and send them to him. 1 for the 20 yr old kid and the other for the few weeks old kid to be born in future. lol. That would really get him worked up. right now he thinks he's in the control seat turn the tables around and say something mean to him. one thing that will totally wipe the smile of his face like . the only reason i stayed with you was because I was f**king your best friend or because the day you asked me out I was hoping your friend would make a move on me but he didn't so I settled for you instead.

And to be honest i secretly aborted of your babies because i could not bear to have a piece of you inside me for more than 5 minutes.

that was cruel, mandla. she can do better than acting out in a way that hurts others.....

[fermin25]

Nobody tell you about your mistakes. If you love him why you decided to move on first? I simply don´t understan this part of your story. When a couple have problems and both of them are thinking the things they put the relationship in stand by but not finished like you did. My point is you don´t have any rigth about him or his acts now so maybe this was your fault how could you broke the relationship in you wanted to be still in it. The hurt men are an easy meal to mad women with experience and this type of women always are young and have children of other men because the others men get tired of them. So maybe your boy isn´t in a long term relationship like you were. But if in the future you want to be with him again you have to be ready to have a child in your life that is not yours or live with that. I advice you to move on of this relationship. I know it´s not easy. How can be easy forget 4 years in a day, week or a month? Impossible but there is nothing that the time can´t destroy and maybe you in the future will only have the memories of your relationship but nothing more. The feelings will dissapear. You will be a stronger woman and you will have more experience to decide about men and find another man. So not all is bad. You are a valuable woman. So you don´t deserve to a man who you know maybe it´s not the best although you feel that you love him so much right now.

Keeping in move on. You can do it.

Regards.