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[missy2205]

Why would you wana loose a chance to make some decent girl happy just because youa re a coward and cant stand firm on what you believe. Thats totally selfish. Whay dont you just break it all off instead of wasting hers and your time cause the longer it lasts the more things will hurt when you have to break it off. I say you should be a man about it and make the right move or as my moms says DO the right thing.

Read most of the responses on here they make a lot of sense and you asked for our advice so at least listen to it

[iAssistant]

I think they are just afraid because you are too young. Explain to them that you will not get married soon and you will nourish your career first but you will not leave her and you will continue on your relationship with her. Tell them that your decision is final and there is nothing they can do about it. If they see that you are really decided, they will respect you but if they see that you are hesitating, they will pressure you more.

[Dipika]

Indego_Media, on 06 May 2011 - 12:13 AM, said:

Anwiii you are correct I know what life is like and how people's issues can affect how you live. I also know how had it can be to go against your family. I lost mine so i could be with my life partner, its been 10 years monday week since we entered into our life together.... So I know exactily how hard the decision between family and lover can be, You are correct about the cowardly act of running its never a good thing when you run scared from a situation. The worst part about running is that eventually life catches up with you. if he walks away from this girl and he is indeed in love with her. then in time no matter who he marries this love that he has for the current girl will create a darkness that will eventually shaddow his commitment to any other relationship that he may have. in its worst form it may even lead to resentment and hatered for his family.


Tejas, you really need some space and solitude, a few minutes, days or what ever it takes, But you need to be clear on what you want. Either way you need to make the decision, anything we say here can give you guidance but at the end of the day when your alone, sitting quietly with your thoughts, You and YOU alone will be the the one who knows how you feel, and what you're going to do...... I can only hope that it is the honorable thing and that you make the decision sooner rather than later. as the longer you leave this situation the darker that resentment could become for all parties involved.

Best of luck with your search and may your honor shine through.

best wishes
Jase

Love Marriage and Arrange Marriage

The best according to me is Love marriage converting into Arrange Marriage. Both of them are equally successful. The success ratio in both love and arrange marriages is the same. However in a Love Marriage you have a good opportunity to understand your life partner before marriage his nature, his likes, his temperament, his surrounding and family members. But in an Arrange Marriages many facts are hidden and innocent girls and her parents are cheated. Marrying a person whom you love who loves you and understands you nicely is the best and leads to a more Harmonious and Successful Marriage.

[k_nitin_r]

If someone can get into an arranged marriage and try all that they may to make it work, why can't they take the same effort to work toward something that they already have and make a love marriage work for them? It does hurt a lot more to get into an arranged marriage and realise that it wasn't for you than to get into a love marriage and work against all odds to make it work for you.

Think of it this way... would you pick a cellular network provider who has been providing services for a couple of years and has been known for good service, or would you take your chances by getting plan that costs the same from a cellular network provider that has been barely in business for a month and can easily decide to give you a service with phone calls that disconnect every three minutes, dropping cell phone signals, and limited coverage area? Stick to what you have and know that works for you rather than going in for something that you have no idea of.

[ritu]

Hi Tejas, sometimes there is very little choice left with us, and that too while making the most important decisions in our life, you know its difficult, lets say impossible to opt for bifurcated ways,in your case it really seems a task as both the families are resisting.it is not a bad idea to wait for two years, but it would be fruitful only if you manage to convince your parents so that they themselves do not find you a match, the girl would be absolutely ruined. Can wish you a lot of luck.