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[Indego_Media]

Well Folks we (My Partner and I) made it to 10 years today..... a small feat in any relationship these days.....

So as for the flowers Anwiii if you want to send me flowers please do so I love flowers and I'm as Masculine as they come... My Partner is the Softer of the two of us. and He is less likely to be impressed by flowers and as such never sends them to me as for holding hands he's not a touchie feelie type of person but if we are in the car driving or something like that he will often hold my hand and I think its very sweet

I agree that public display's of affection is sometimes a little hard to handle but it is also very nice if its in the right place at the right time and its not going to cause a scene or get my head based in

I still think that the general public finds it difficult to watch or see 2 men kissing, now 2 girls on the other hand i'm sure most men and nearly all women have very little issue with that... got to love our lesbian sisters

Anwiii i think you are correct that when its two men involved it depends on the chemical makeup of the people. just as it does with a standard straight couple, there are some girls ( Tomboys) that are less interested in flowers and romantic dates as Hotted up Cars and a night out shooting pool with their friends....

So i think its more a chemical / physiological predeterminiation that effects how we react to certian stimuli rather than that actual interaction.... and this of course leads onto a discussion on birth as apposed to choice, there are some who still beleive that GAY is a choice... while there are more now that are open to the fact that this is how you are born and its the enviornment that will nurture you into the person that you are.... I'm not saying that people who are born Gay don't live full and happy lives with someone of the opposite sex, but I think that if you were able to sit them down and talk openly with out risk, they would admit that something in thier life was not quite right, and I think that the environment that they live in and were raised in has a lot to do with the scale of the "Not Right" feelings they have.


I'm also sure getting back to the original reply from anwii that there are some men out there who are straight and happily in a standard relationship that would love to recieve flowers from thier female partner...... I'm just not so sure they would admit it to thier Football / Hockey Playing Mates.....

[sheepdog]

I can certainly see where public displays of affection would be a problem in your case. Unfortunatly there are still a lot of straight people that would prefer it if ya'll had stayed in the closet.

But there are so many other things you can do to spark up your life. I don't know who does the cooking in your situation, (Hubby and I actually take turns) But cooking your partners favorite meal is one idea. LOL, as they say, the way to a man's heart (and that is ANY man) is threw his stomach. Candles, favorite music in the back ground, or the favorite movie keyed up and ready in the DVR, all together can set a very nice mood.
If he is not into flowers, what about other small gifts, you don't have to spend a ton of money, just be observant. Ever hear him say, "Gee, I'd like to have one of those" and keep it in mind, to surprise him with later. The other ideas of traveling is good too. And you can pick events that occur in and around your area, like concerts, sporting events, that sort of thing. Just yesterday we were traveling to deliver a puppy when we stopped for gas I saw a poster for an event at a sports bar where that cool guy that plays on all the Police Academy movies is making an appearance. You know, the one that makes all those so cool sound effects with just his own voice? I think he's really neat. Anyway, if my hubby didn't have a rock for a head, he might of noticed me mentioning it and tried to get tickets to see him secretly and surprise me with them. Of course, I'm dreaming here, but it would of been very neat thing to do.