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[scab_dog]

Well I'll start from the start:

Well few months ago, i saw a "fat" person beign bullied by some bullies, the bullies left and the person was sobbing. I sat next to him and i comforted him. The next day he stared hanging around with me. I personally dont like him, hes so goofy, dumb and annoying. he started to hang around with me and ever1 at school thought i was a retart because i hanged around with him.

Yesterday, i was throwing rocks at a pole and he rand in front of the pole and got hit by a rock, he told the teacher and i got into a lot of trouble. I missed out on the sporting carnival becaues of that. Anyway, i want to avoid him, with out hurting his feeling. He cries a lot, if you pinch him he'll probley cry.

So how do you avoid him, with out hurting his feeling.

From
.::DAMAN::.

[Cammy]

Oh dear. Well his feelings are going to be hurt no matter what. I dont think you should hang around someone you dont like. Maybe he acts goofy because he is lonely and thats the only way he can get attention. I was a big girl who was teased at school, I am a sucker for the underdog. I wore glasses, was called 4 eyes. Seriously if you dont want to be his friend you are going to have to be tough and stay away from him or he will be like a lost puppy looking for a home.

[hulunes]

err,...you should relax usually to care for this matter.you'd better not to avoid someone who you dislike on purpose.as time going by,everything must go well like usual.

[biscuitrat]

First of all, it's "hung", "ran", and there's probably more, but oh well. /english nazi

I would never avoid someone because it makes both people feel bad. The fact that you accept criticism from your peers so openly is bad enough. You shouldn't judge yourself on what others think. So what if they think you're stupid (retarded means mentally slow, not idiotic)? Deal with it. I was the biggest nerd in elementary school and I learned somehow that things weren't always going to be the way I wanted them to be. So I took note of it and did my best to be true to myself without breaking any boundaries. This kid probably doesn't have too many other friends so he's relying on you to stick up for him sometimes. If you give him a chance, he could be a good person.

If you ever feel like he's being annoying, let him down gently. Tell him what you don't like and what you do like to even out the blow you're dealing and then just wean him off of you. Introduce him to new people, do things for him. He's probably not capable of using his social skills so he hasn't nurtured them. The fact that you didn't apologize when you hit him with the rocks is kind of low. It's like you were waiting for him to come in front of the pole so you could peg him.

And also, tsk tsk for throwing rocks at a pole! What if they richocheted ?

[scab_dog]

biscuitrat, on Apr 9 2005, 02:04 PM, said:

First of all, it's "hung", "ran", and there's probably more, but oh well. /english nazi

I would never avoid someone because it makes both people feel bad. The fact that you accept criticism from your peers so openly is bad enough. You shouldn't judge yourself on what others think. So what if they think you're stupid (retarded means mentally slow, not idiotic)? Deal with it. I was the biggest nerd in elementary school and I learned somehow that things weren't always going to be the way I wanted them to be. So I took note of it and did my best to be true to myself without breaking any boundaries. This kid probably doesn't have too many other friends so he's relying on you to stick up for him sometimes. If you give him a chance, he could be a good person.

If you ever feel like he's being annoying, let him down gently. Tell him what you don't like and what you do like to even out the blow you're dealing and then just wean him off of you. Introduce him to new people, do things for him. He's probably not capable of using his social skills so he hasn't nurtured them. The fact that you didn't apologize when you hit him with the rocks is kind of low. It's like you were waiting for him to come in front of the pole so you could peg him.

And also, tsk tsk for throwing rocks at a pole! What if they richocheted ?

I apologized straight away, I didnt really mean to hit him, i was just seeing if i can hit a pole from a distance. I apologized to him thousands of times. What I think low is that him telling the teacher and complaning to the teacher about me. I understand that you would probely see a teacher for a first aid assitance but dumping me into the teacher thats low, and he is smart enough to call me his friend.

Ages ago, one of my friend broke my arm, and i had to make up a story to the teacher, so my friend wouldnt get into trouble, he threw a rock at me once and he had to make up a story.

I recon this is low, dumbing your own friend and then call that person your friend.

From
.::DAMAN::.

[biscuitrat]

Well, now that I know that side of it, I agree. It is low. After all, it's not like you were aiming at him (at least I hope you weren't :/). I do know a couple of people like the guy you're talking about and I've found that if you treat them with a bit of kindness instead of indifference, you're much better off. You don't want people moping and hiding from you whenever you near them, do you?

[scab_dog]

biscuitrat, on Apr 9 2005, 02:47 PM, said:

Well, now that I know that side of it, I agree. It is low. After all, it's not like you were aiming at him (at least I hope you weren't :/). I do know a couple of people like the guy you're talking about and I've found that if you treat them with a bit of kindness instead of indifference, you're much better off. You don't want people moping and hiding from you whenever you near them, do you?

I was treating him with kindness, until he ran in front of the pole. But he didnt get hurt that much he is a cry baby, he cries a lot. But yeah if he dosent act goffy, and embares him self in front of the public, he would be alright, some times he acts as if he knows everything.

[P00ru]

the solution is easy just be more annoying to him and he will want to avoid you and eventually youll be able to forget about each other and move onto new friends without you feeling bad or maybe he is bing really annoying to you because he doesnt want to feel bad. i suggest give him a wedgie and run, deny everything, get rid of witnesses and he wont like you and boom, problem gone

[scab_dog]

P00ru, on Apr 21 2005, 05:04 PM, said:

the solution is easy just be more annoying to him and he will want to avoid you and eventually youll be able to forget about each other and move onto new friends without you feeling bad or maybe he is bing really annoying to you because he doesnt want to feel bad.  i suggest give him a wedgie and run, deny everything, get rid of witnesses and he wont like you and boom, problem gone

I like the wedgie bit, but he is toooooo heveay to lift, and i think this is going too mean.

[brandice]

Nooo. Don't give anyone a wedgie.

If you see no hope in ever getting to know this kid and becoming friends, you are going to have to do the old "growing apart" thing. What you need to do is be busy. Get yourself a book to read, or studying to do. "Oh, I am sorry I can't hang out. I have to finish my project." Always have to be going somewhere. you know what I mean? And maybe you need to try and seek out new friends.

[Darker333]

Wow, bullying still happens? Well maybe it's because I was raised on the west coast then..

[mbd5882]

Go wit tha wedgie,
Its the best idea,
Dont listen to anyone except me.
They dont know what there sayin and r all against you.

Personally jus tel him ho u feel and u dont like him.
Or u could do 2 him what the bully did in tha first place.


He could control ure life & u could end up as ure avatar.
LOL.




Thanks.LOL

[iGuest]

uh....
How To Avoid A Person?

Have you tried the change the way you look strategy? I'm sure that you can do it, if you try. I did this once by changing the way I looked, & the person never knew it was me cause they didn't know me very well. Just try to change your outward appearance & they should leave you alone, change your hair color or what not. This kid should leave you alone thinking that your some one new =P

Or just grow up & become their friend, duh. XD

-queenie

[iGuest]

Y DO you want 2 avoid him hes just a person like you and me,he probably doesnt have any friends so just b a good friend and make him feel better!

-Lauren

[Vera]

Just tell him the truth. Tell him that you don't want to be friends with someone you can't trust and cite the rock throwing incident since I think that really does bother you. He might ask for a second chance, but tell him he has blown it.

Don't be a bully. Don't give him a wedgie. Else, you'll just drive the kid towards suicide or a mental breakdown. Yes I'm exaggerating, but it only takes one straw to break the camel's back, as they say.

Or else you could find someone like him, another underdog. Introduce them. Let them be friends. If he has someone else to hang out with, he should leave you alone.

[bishoujo]

that sounds really annoying. He's sticking with you because he thinks you accept him cos' you're not like the other people who bully him and ostracise him. It's sad that he's a tattletale, otherwise if I were you i'd attempt to look over his faults because i know it's terrible when one is friendless, helpless and lonely.

Why don't you try talking to him, telling him about whichever behavior of his that you (and probably everyone else) dislike, including the tattletale bit and asking him to change? Maybe he'll cry, but make him realize that it's for his own good. If he becomes a more pleasant person, more people will like him, and maybe you will even grow to like him too.

If you really can't stand him, well, i second brandice's suggestion. Tell him you are busy whenever he tries to get you to hang out with him and then run off. Eventually he will realize that you are ignoring him and he will feel hurt and go away. Yes, unfortunately, you can't have your cake and eat it. You will be rid of him, but he will be hurt even if you don't want him to be.

[iGuest]

how to make her leave me alone!!!!!!
How To Avoid A Person?

Hey guys I need help. Well, our family moved, and we started visiting this church. And this girl ignored me then one day came up and started being really nice to me. We became friends.

Then she started getting extremely annoying and she is now a drama queen. Well she's always been a drama queen but she will NOT leave me alone and if I say ONE THING wrong -even if its nto mean at all- she gets all "upset" and ignores me for a while, and blabs her mouth off to her mom and she is SOOOOO INCREDIBLY ANNOYING! my mom sez we won't invite her over until she shapes up. And she lies her stupid head off to get her way! HELP HELP HELP!

-reply by rachel

[iGuest]

this annoying person is stalking me. ??
How To Avoid A Person?

I have people like that... Yea its hard. I sometimes HATE being nice because then I always am a magnet for freaks. Some of them turn out to be cool but some of them...

Yea. Well there's this girl and she's really nice I guess but the more I hang around her, the more I realize we have nearly nothing in common. I like reading drawing photography the cure the beatles the teddybears twilight, stuff like that I guess you can say I'm a really artsy person
She likes...Well...Hannah montanna hilary duff pirates of the carribean and she thinks that bunnies and babies are cute ( well most people do but she talks about it alot) shes also kindof conservative in a weird way
And then she bosses me around and invites herself over gaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa

I think we can still be friends but I just need to GET AWAY for a little, shes in a few of my classes so I'm not really sure how to do this. Help.

-reply by Sandra

[Joshua]

1 - Wear a paper bag at all times that you suspect he might even be in the same zip code as you.
2 - Use ninja techniques, peer around corners, walk on tiptoe, etc.
3 - Either bug him with a location tracking device or use a complex network of friends with radio/cellphone contact so that you can know where he is at all times and thus be far, far away.
4 - If somehow he does manage to notice you, quickly use diversionary tactics like setting off sprinklers, shouting out "fire!", etc. and make your getaway.

Seriously, disregard the above and just be honest with him It sounds like the main reason you don't want to be around him is because of what happened with the rocks. Tell him that. Honesty is the best policy. Tell him what happened again and that you lost respect for him because of his actions there, and that you'd prefer not to spend time around him.

Like someone else said, his feelings are going to be hurt either way, so that can't be avoided. What can be avoided are the misunderstandings that could make this even worse. Tell him exactly why you don't want to be around him. Based on that, I wouldn't think him a very good choice for a friend either, and it sounds like you're honest enough to be able to tell him that.

I do hope though, that it's not just because of his reputation or whatever or how it affects your reputation. Sometimes the best friends can be the most unpopular, but we shouldn't worry about what others think regardless. If you were willing to stick up for him in the first place though, I doubt that's much of an issue for you.

Still, just be honest about what's affecting your decision and at least do him the service of letting him know exactly where everything stands. Who knows, maybe it will even result in a misunderstanding being cleared up? Truth has a funny way of making relationships stronger when you'd think it would tear them apart.

And hey, if the guy's the whiny sissy you think he is, at least you can walk away from this with a clear conscience and no regrets or misunderstandings. Maybe that honesty could even have an impact on his character in the future and one day he'll be able to thank you for it.

Figure out exactly why you feel the way you do, and tell him it. I'm guessing it might run something like this: "I stuck up for you against the bullies because it was the right thing to do, not because I wanted to hang around you all the time. The main reason I don't want to spend time with you is because you got in my way when I was throwing rocks at a pole and then got me in trouble with the teacher, which isn't my idea of what a true friend would do. With all due respect I really just want you to leave me alone. I'm not trying to hurt your feelings, I just don't like you hanging around me all the time."

Edited by Joshua, 26 February 2008 - 04:22 AM.

[Joshua]

Rats, all these recent posts made me think this was a recent issue, I just realized it wasn't. Oh well, hope it turned out alright.

[iGuest]

how to get back at your boyfriend
How To Avoid A Person?

Okay I have this boyfriend and we have been going out for about 6 years. He cheated on me once because a triflin ass co-worker kissed him because she was feeling vunerable. But I still think he could have avoided escaped her lips because hes a ****ing grown man. He had me questioning myself and aksin myself what I did to deserve this??, am I beaituful enough??? and whether or not he was even interested in me other than sex??? but I have grown up now and ealized that was not my fault and nor should I blame myself. But heres what the point is>>> I have major trust issues, he has broken promises to answer all my questions if I had any about the allegded kiss at any given time without getting mad...So now since he did not hold up his end of the bargain, I want him to start feeling the way I feel. I know this is juvenile but he deserves it, Please understan that>> and if anyone has any suggestions on how I can make him a tiny bit miserable, PLEEEEEEEASE LET ME KNOW! seriously...After toturing him for about a week I'll stop , I just want him to learn his lesson!

-reply by stressed out girl

[LooneyMS]

omar, on Apr 8 2005, 04:05 AM, said:

Well I'll start from the start:

Well few months ago, i saw a "fat" person beign bullied by some bullies, the bullies left and the person was sobbing. I sat next to him and i comforted him. The next day he stared hanging around with me. I personally dont like him, hes so goofy, dumb and annoying. he started to hang around with me and ever1 at school thought i was a retart because i hanged around with him.

Yesterday, i was throwing rocks at a pole and he rand in front of the pole and got hit by a rock, he told the teacher and i got into a lot of trouble. I missed out on the sporting carnival becaues of that. Anyway, i want to avoid him, with out hurting his feeling. He cries a lot, if you pinch him he'll probley cry.

So how do you avoid him, with out hurting his feeling.

From
.::DAMAN::.

You should tell him you have a twin. Then when you see him at school tell him that you Are the twin and your brother is the one who helped him. Just say your brother dropped out of school or something.

[nstay]

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I apologized straight away, I didnt really mean to hit him, i was just seeing if i can hit a pole from a distance. I apologized to him thousands of times. What I think low is that him telling the teacher and complaning to the teacher about me. I understand that you would probely see a teacher for a first aid assitance but dumping me into the teacher thats low, and he is smart enough to call me his friend.

Ages ago, one of my friend broke my arm, and i had to make up a story to the teacher, so my friend wouldnt get into trouble, he threw a rock at me once and he had to make up a story.

I recon this is low, dumbing your own friend and then call that person your friend.

From
.::DAMAN::.

you should try going with him less and less every day,bit by bit.Your kind
but for me i'll just scold him with all i have and ask him not to show up infront of me again

[netmarkethub]

lol Don't give anyone a wedgie.

[aegreatone]

easy, they call dont answer, they come by, dont answer, they show up where your at act like you dont see em' and leave if neccessary...come on fellas, ya'lll make this to easy.

wait wait, hold up hold up, i just read your post and not the subject.

yes, very childish i have to say...grow up, sorry i had to say that to you.

2nd, it was just a kiss..u act like he f' tha girl...get over it, if you cant get over it, get rid of em'

Edited by aegreatone.co.cc, 13 October 2008 - 11:23 PM.